What do you desire to achieve by speaking the truth? This is a question you should ask yourself before coming out clean. Are you on a mission to make somebody feel bad or bring the best out of your relationship? It is important to note that a cozy relationship is built through trust and deceit. Regardless of how we might feel, that is the painful truth. What therefore is the ideal approach you should take if you want to come out clean?
Ways of telling a painful truth to someone:
- Put their feelings into consideration
It is imperative to consider how another individual will respond to your sentiments regardless of your feelings. Always put yourself in their position since their response will depend on how you speak to them. Considering their proneness before you uncover a fact may reduce their troubles.
- Evaluate your utterances
Always be kind with your utterances. Your being sincere doesn’t mean you unpleasantly state something. However, this doesn’t mean you shy away from telling the truth just as it is. What you need to do is to be selective with your utterances. “I feel” sentiments have more impact than your articulations, so always include them in your proclamations. Don’t put blames on individuals lest they dissent against you for that. Maya Angelou once said, “People will forget what you said. People will forget what you did. But people will never forget how you made them feel.”
- Think about your timing
You might feel the need to exclaim something immediately; however, a startling truth should not be shared during contention. You should not catalyze a contention; rather, wait for that moment when everyone will have cooled down to say whatever you feel like saying. When you speak the truth, your utterances will impact you a lot. There is always control in knowing what to utter and when to utter them.