What do you desire to achieve by speaking the truth? This is a question you should ask yourself before coming out clean. Are you on a mission to make somebody feel bad or bring the best out of your relationship? It is important to note that a cozy relationship is built through trust and deceit. Regardless of how we might feel, that is the painful truth. What therefore is the ideal approach you should take if you want to come out clean?
Ways of telling a painful truth to someone:
- Put their feelings into consideration
It is imperative to consider how another individual will respond to your sentiments regardless of your feelings. Always put yourself in their position since their response will depend on how you speak to them. Considering their proneness before you uncover a fact may reduce their troubles.
- Evaluate your utterances
Always be kind with your utterances. Your being sincere doesn’t mean you unpleasantly state something. However, this doesn’t mean you shy away from telling the truth just as it is. What you need to do is to be selective with your utterances. “I feel” sentiments have more impact than your articulations, so always include them in your proclamations. Don’t put blames on individuals lest they dissent against you for that. Maya Angelou once said, “People will forget what you said. People will forget what you did. But people will never forget how you made them feel.”
- Think about your timing
You might feel the need to exclaim something immediately; however, a startling truth should not be shared during contention. You should not catalyze a contention; rather, wait for that moment when everyone will have cooled down to say whatever you feel like saying. When you speak the truth, your utterances will impact you a lot. There is always control in knowing what to utter and when to utter them.
The article provides some insightful pointers on approaching delicate truths. Emphasizing timing and consideration of feelings can indeed make a difference in communication. It resonates well with the notion of emotional intelligence.
Considering the other person’s feelings is a fundamental aspect of mature communication. The article rightly points out that it’s not just about delivering the truth but doing so in a way that respects the recipient’s emotional state.
One aspect the article could further explore is the role of context in truthful communication. The environment and situational dynamics can also influence how a person receives a painful truth. A holistic approach would be beneficial.
The reference to Maya Angelou’s quote is quite apt. It underscores the long-term impact of our words on others’ emotions. This article highlights the importance of empathy in truthful communication.
The advice on being kind with your utterances is crucial. However, I wonder if there’s a risk of overthinking and possibly diluting the truth. How do we balance honesty and kindness without compromising the message?
Rufio, that is a valid concern. Balancing honesty and kindness requires a nuanced approach. Using ‘I feel’ statements can help in maintaining that balance by personalizing the truth without making it accusatory.
I agree with Evelyn. Additionally, practicing thoughtful articulation and perhaps seeking feedback on our approach can help refine the balance between honesty and kindness.