The Advantages of Not Living Together

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Not Living Together

Are you thinking about moving in with your partner? 

Keeping the mystery alive in your relationship could be a reason not to cohabitate.  Another reason is to keep the mystery alive.  One of the key components of romance is leaving something to the imagination.    If your partner is super neat and you are incredibly messy, your romance may suffer when you bring these two personality types together.

But you may also see the good side; you love being together, wouldn’t living together be ideal?  This may make sense in the first stages of relationships, but living apart can also help keep things fresh. It’s not just people in long-term relationships that are doing this. Some couples who are married are also choosing to live apart.

  • Keeping your Independence

The group LAT (Living Apart Together) is a conglomerate of people who are in committed relationships and are exclusively attached to each other but choose to live apart.  The people in this group tout the benefits of staying independent.

  • The ability to take a break

Some who choose to live apart say that LAT provides them with a place to embrace their quirky selves without compromising on chores, temperatures, television volume, etc.  They can also take a break from the world without being afraid they are insulting their partner.

  • Having the Ability to End Things Without Entanglements

One of the prime times for couples to move in together is when they become engaged.  Whether or not they acknowledge it, this is a test of their ability to make compromises on their living space.  This, however, can lead to other complications.  If the living situation doesn’t work out, the partnership has to dissolve all of the shared assets, not to mention having to get along with someone you are not in love with.

  • Appreciation for Time Spent Together

If you see someone every day, you can grow to take each other for granted. Also, you may begin to get on each other’s nerves for minute reasons that you would have never noticed if you weren’t together all of the time.

There are good sides to living apart. Romance may last longer because of the mystery. On the other hand, you can keep your independence, end things if you want/need to, and gain a better appreciation of each other.

7 COMMENTS

  1. Some people thrive on independence, and the ability to choose a living arrangement that suits both partners can be beneficial. LAT appears to offer that flexibility.

  2. The LAT lifestyle is an interesting concept. It seems like a modern approach to relationships that can cater to individual needs while maintaining a commitment.

  3. While LAT has its advantages, it might not be the right fit for everyone. Some people might prefer the connection and companionship that comes from living together.

  4. Living apart together might be a practical solution for some couples. It allows each person to maintain their own space and habits without forcing mutual compromises.

    • I agree. It also seems like a way to keep the relationship exciting by not being in each other’s constant presence.

    • Yes, it could help avoid potentially relationship-damaging conflicts over trivial issues like cleanliness or routines.

  5. The idea of avoiding cohabitation to preserve mystery and romance is intriguing. It makes sense that some couples might benefit from having their own space.

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