First-date hopes are often shattered early on by mistakes women make whether they meant to or not. You meet a great guy and want to go out on a date with him. You’ve had a lively conversation and were very engaging and open-minded. But for some reason, he doesn’t call you the next day, or the day after that. Days or weeks go by and you find yourself lamenting with your girlfriends, trying to figure out what you did wrong. Again.
Following are six tips that women can follow to avoid some of the most common mistakes made before going out with a guy on a date.
- Be prompt in your replies.
Texting knockout happens when you knock yourself out of the dating ring before you’ve even had the chance to get in. You may have been delaying your responses to his texts because you don’t want to seem desperate. But there’s a fine line between playing hard-to-get and truly being unavailable. If you wait too long to respond to his texts, he may lose interest.
- Be interesting.
Some women hint to guys that they need to bring excitement into their lives, because their lives are so-o-o boring without them. They may say things like, “I’m tired” or “I have to go to this family thing, but I don’t want to,” or answer every question with “I dunno, sort of, I guess…” But all that really does is make you look like you’re seeking pity and makes you seem boring. Guys are drawn to interesting women. Be interesting! Have interesting plans and interesting friends. Make your life exciting. Don’t rely on a guy to make it exciting for you.
- Confirm your date.
It’s common courtesy for a guy to confirm your date several hours before you’re supposed to meet up. But if he doesn’t confirm, don’t go ballistic or assume that something’s seriously wrong. Simply take the initiative and reach out to him to confirm the date. But if you find out there really wasn’t anything keeping him from confirming with you, it may show that he isn’t all that excited about going out with you.
- Dress appropriately.
Guys like women who dress sexy. But that doesn’t mean you should wear a micro-mini skirt to go ice skating, or stiletto heels to a corn maze. Dressing sexy isn’t as important as acting sexy, though. Charm him with your words, not your body. If you wear provocative clothing on your first date, you’re giving him the impression that he might get lucky later that night. If that’s something you’re not interested in on a first date, you should probably err on the side of caution and tone down the wardrobe.
- Tell the truth.
Lying happens a lot, especially when people first meet online. They lie about their age, their profession, their relationship status and even their gender. The hope is that when they actually meet the person face-to-face that they’ve been talking to online, all will be forgiven. But you don’t need to lie, and you shouldn’t. If a man isn’t mature enough to accept the real you, you shouldn’t waste your time with him. On the flip side, don’t get too excited about anyone you meet online. They could be lying to you.
- Bring some spare cash.
One a first date, who’s supposed to pay? Some people think that the person who initiated the date should pay. Others believe that the guy should always pay. But most guys appreciate it when a woman offers to pay for her half, and many women prefer to pay their own way. It makes them feel independent, and it keeps guys from feeling entitled to sex later. So bring along some cash. And if you do offer to pay for your half, be sure to be sincere about it. Don’t slo-o-owly reach into your purse in the hopes that your date will offer to cover it. Also, bring enough to cover an Uber ride home, just in case he picked you up in his car and the date looks like it’s not going to end well.