It is not uncommon these days for men to stay single. It is said that some men choose to stay single so they can do whatever they want and that marriage only restricts their freedom.
This eventuality leads to disappointment when you meet a man who piques your interest, only to find that not only does he not want to commit now, he may never commit. Is their independence so important that they would risk being alone forever?
It is not news that you have to compromise to survive and thrive in a relationship. When you start a relationship, many men do not want to part with worldly possessions, from a ratty t-shirt from high school or their top-of-the-line gaming system. They do not want to run the risk of a new lady in their lives taking over and literally cleaning the house. Or, even worse, making them do it.
Here are a few tips to avoid fights or the possibility of a breakup:
Step 1
Don’t try to control him unless you want to find yourself on the fast track to singlehood.
Many men like to stay single so that they can date as many people as they want. Even if he truly cares about you, he may not be ready for a relationship. Just because you are ready for a commitment doesn’t mean he is. If he is not ready, don’t force him. This is a good way to lose him altogether.
Just because his priorities are different doesn’t mean your time with him is wasted. Enjoy your time together, and take it slow.
Step 2
Give him some time and space. You don’t want to push him away.
Another reason he may want to be single because they are afraid of the expense involved with a committed relationship. The expense associated with marriage goes far past the cost of a ring and ceremony. A spouse means twice the expenses. They may feel that you, as their lifelong partner, expect them to foot the bill for everything, not just insurance and joint costs, but being the sole support of both of you. A good way to avoid this is to be independent and let him know you are self-sufficient. Make him understand that you want him as part of your life, not the reason.
Step 3
Be friends with him.
Help him feel comfortable with you. Spend quality time doing small things, such as letting him know that you enjoy sitting at home with him as much as you enjoy going out with him.
You may not change his mind, but you can have fun while going out. If you do change his mind, then the relationship was meant to be long-term. Continue to show your independence and enjoy time together and separate activities.
The cost of maintaining a committed relationship, as discussed, is a valid concern. It’s important for both partners to agree on financial expectations.
True, open communication about financial responsibility is essential in any relationship.
Yes, financial independence and mutual understanding can significantly ease the burden of such concerns.
The suggestion to enjoy the time together without rushing things is quite sensible. Patience can lead to a stronger bond.
Absolutely, taking it slow can help both partners understand each other better and create a solid foundation.
The idea of giving him some space and not trying to control him is quite practical. Many people need their personal space to feel comfortable.
The article addresses a significant issue about men’s reluctance to commit. It provides some useful tips to navigate these relationships, though it may not apply to everyone.
Indeed, the advice can be quite situational. Individual preferences and circumstances often play a major role.
Becoming friends first and enjoying small moments together can indeed make a difference. It helps build trust and mutual respect.