You meet a great guy and decide to go out on a date. In your mind you did everything right, had a lively conversation and were very open minded. But for some reason, he doesn’t call the next day, or the day after that, until a few months go by and you’re sitting having wine with your girlfriends wondering what you did wrong.
First date hopes are often shattered by the mistakes women make whether they mean to or not. The following are the five worst dating mistakes women make before going out with a guy:
Texting 1-2-3 happens when you knock yourself out before you even have a chance to get in the ring. For example, you may delay your responses to his texts because you don’t want to seem desperate, but there is a difference between playing hard-to-get and being unavailable. If you wait too long to respond to his texts, he may lose interest. Another example is when some women make their life seem boring as a way of hinting to a guy that he needs to bring some excitement to it. They may say things like, “I’m tired” or “I have to go to this family thing, but I don’t want to.” If you say that, all you are really doing is looking for pity and making yourself seem boring. Guys are drawn to interesting women, so be interesting. Have interesting plans and friends and make your life exciting. Don’t expect a man to make it exciting for you.
It’s common courtesy for a guy to confirm your date several hours before you’re supposed to meet up. If he doesn’t do this, don’t assume anything’s wrong or fly of the handle. Reach out to him to confirm the date. If there was nothing keeping him from confirming with you, that’s a red flag. It shows that he isn’t enthusiastic about getting together with you.
Not Dressing Appropriately
Guys like a woman who dresses sexy, but don’t wear stiletto heels to a corn maze or a mini skirt to go ice skating. Dressing sexy isn’t as important as acting sexy though. Charm him with your words, not your body. If you wear provocative clothing on a first date, you’re giving him the impression that he might get lucky later that night. And if that’s something you’re not interested in on a first date, you may want to tone down the wardrobe.
Not Telling the Truth
This happens a lot, especially when people meet online. They’ll tell lies about their age, profession, relationship status and even their gender. The hope here is that when they meet the person they’ve been talking too, all will be forgiven. But you don’t need to lie and you shouldn’t. If a man isn’t mature enough to accept the real you, you don’t need to waste your time with him. And don’t get too excited about anyone you meet online. They could be lying to you.
Not Bringing Money
One a first date, who is expected to pay? Some people believe that the person who does the asking for the date pays. Others believe that the man should always pay. Most men appreciate it when a woman offers to pay for her half though. And a lot of women prefer to pay their way. It makes them feel independent and it keeps men from feeling entitled to sex later. So bring money and if you offer to pay for your half, be sincere about it. Don’t slowly reach into your purse hoping your date will offer to cover everything. The cash you bring should also cover a taxi ride home if he picked you up in his car and the date’s not going well.