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Saving the Friendship

As we all know, friendships pass through phases. It’s just a part of the human condition.  Every relationship has its up and downs.  However, sometimes a friendship can be challenged to the point that it seems there will be no return. It could be a huge fight or even huger disagreement, it could be the thing that destroys your friendship forever.

If you want to salvage your friendship, there will be some intense work that has to be done. It may be necessary to make a clean breast of it and moving forward with the a plan to make it past the challenges and rescue your friendship.

Choose to make necessary repairs

Before you go through all of the heavy lifting, both of you have to make the choice that you want to stay friends. Really think about it. Are you fully committed to making this work?  If so, then you can start to do all of the repairs.

Discuss the conflict

Have a serious conversation and get everything out in the open. Discuss every single thing you feel and think about the conflict.  Don’t leave anything out unless it’s truly hurtful.  Make sure everything is said.  You have to get it all out before you move on.

Let the past, pass

Once all of the talking has been done, truly commit to never mentioning it again. It’s all out in the open, so you don’t have to bring it up anymore.  Put it behind you and move on.  When you agree to this, you can move on without reliving the past hurt. If you have really forgiven each other, there is no reason to bring it up again.

Gently move back into the friendship

It is only natural that you won’t feel as close to your friend as you once were.  Don’t be disappointed if you can’t just move seamlessly back to where you once were.   If you used to be in constant contact before the disagreement, ease back in by casually meeting once a week or so.  Keep in touch via text or email instead of calling. This will help slowly rebuild the relationship.  It will take time, but you will eventually be back to the closeness you once shared.

If you are uncertain about areas of your relationship with friends or other loved ones, you can always consult a love psychic to guide you through the repairs of your friendship.

Ready for Romance?

Everyone says that summer is when the time is ripe to fall in love. It may be because people go on trips and vacations and there is an air of frivolity and casualness which opens us up to new romance.  But are you truly ready for a new relationship? How do you truly know?

The First Step is Forgiveness

If you hold hostility and grudges in your heart you are getting in your own way. As desperately as you want to hold on to this, it is not in your better interest.  Once you have started working through the anger and blame you can purge yourself of this negative energy. And once this is gone you can focus on building a new relationship without bringing old feelings into your new romance.

Love yourself

Many, many people do not love themselves and create an aura of doubt and negativity around themselves.  This can keep a new romance at bay.  Much of this negativity comes from a lack of acceptance about their physical appearance. This feeling of not being good enough can lead to people settling for less than perfect romances.  This will eventually led to mistrust.  If you don’t trust someone you will draw in people who are actually untrustworthy. If you really want to bring a long term relationship to you, you have to love yourself.  Think about how many times you tell yourself that you are not good enough. When you think this, it sticks in your brain and plays over and over again.  Once you become aware of your false beliefs you can work with a therapist to help you transition into a state of self-love.  You can start by nourishing your inner child. If you actually picture a child, you won’t easily be able to insult it by what you have been telling your adult self.  This will remind you that you love this child and want them to feel cherished.

Don’t be afraid

Be fearless as you go about your life journey. Focus on what you want to do and don’t go into every situation as if you seeking your one true love.  It has been said that if you stop looking for love, you will find it. Don’t let your fear manifest as desperation.  This is a negative energy that is not only unhelpful but it will also leave you vulnerable to the wrong kind of relationship. Focus on being happy with yourself.  Accept yourself and your life as it is and don’t judge yourself.  This acceptance will free your spirit and this may lead to the love of your life.

Good Karma or Bad Karma

There are those who don’t particularly want or need a relationship. This may be directly caused by what their soul tells them.  Their mission on this plane of existence is to work on themselves and their personal journey. Most of these souls are aware of what they want. If you think you have this kind of soul, you can consult a psychic or an astrology to fully understand what you want need.

Even though the world around you may be springing into summer with the thought of new love and romance, only you know when you ready. There is not a timeline that you must adhere to.

Stop Being Afraid and Take Chances

As you go on your journey through life, you may decide to something extraordinary and different. Taking chances is the stuff dreams are made of, and many have planned to do something different and take some risks.  Very few people actually follow through.  This is because veering from your routine can be terrifying me.

You shouldn’t let your fear or anxiety keep you from going after your dreams.  Here are a few tips to keep moving forward.

  • Remember your reasons. While things may seem stressful initially, don’t back down.  It will help if you keep a journal and/or meditate about your goal.   A vision board will also help guide you with it’s visual reminders and motivational quotes.
  • Get moral support. You probably have more of a support system than you realize.  You have friends and family members who will help cheer you on and encourage.   You can call them or text them to get them to back you up. You may try finding an online support group for whatever you are striving to do.
  • Put it in writing.  Face your fears and worries by giving them a voice through your words.  Write down what you are afraid of and take a look at it.  It will help you put a face on these fears and will provide you with a safe way to examine them.  One you see them on paper, they will be easier to conquer.
  • Just breathe. As you grow through your life journey, you need to remind yourself to be   When you feel afraid, breathe in and out. This will keep you in the moment and give you a chance to take things one step at a time.  This will also give you time to reach and relish the success you deserve.

Does He Have Fatherhood Potential

Fatherhood

You may think your partner is a great person, friend, and husband, but how can you tell if he will be a good father? Any man can be a father, but a special man must be a dad.  Is the man in your life qualified?

This is important because while any guy can be a father, it takes a true man to be a dad.  If you want the best for your children, you should provide a love-filled home.  As you may know, being a good parent means that you put your children first.

There are a few ways to find out if your partner will be a good father:

Ask a few questions:

Can he handle life’s disappointments with grace?  Will he be able to deal with the daily messes and frustrations that come with raising children?  Will he be a true partner if you are sick or tired?

  • How does he behave around his mother?

A good way to tell if your partner will be a good father is to see if he has a good relationship with his mother.  If he is a kind and helpful son, chances are he will also be a good nurturer.

  • Is he generous?

Does the man in your life put others before him? Is he kind and considerate? Or is he too attached to his lifestyle to adapt?  Find out if he is ready and willing to adapt.

  • Is he good with other children?

Watch how he interacts with the children who are already in his life. These can be nieces or nephews or the children of friends. See if he is attentive and caring towards these children.  This will be a good sign of how he will behave with his children.

  • Are you compatible?

Do the two of you get along with each other? The two of you should examine your relationship before you think about having children. If you are unsure, you can consult a trusted psychic. A thorough reading can answer this question.

  • What’s his psychic profile?

After your reading, ask your advisor to help you find out how your horoscopes work together.  Then, see if your life paths will move in the same direction.

While these are not the only determining factors, they are highly important questions to ask before considering having children together. Children are a lifetime commitment that should not be taken lightly, so be certain of your partner.

Meeting Your Guardian Angel Through Meditation

         We used meditation for hundreds of years for different reasons and that includes developing inner peace and promoting mental, spiritual and psychical health and well being. While there are many reasons to meditate, there are no right or wrong reasons to practice it. It can also be used to contact the spiritual world, and many people feel that they can connect with themselves, their guardian angels and spirit guides through this method.

If you believe in guardian angels and have a strong feeling that you have one out there waiting for you, you can make any attempt to try and reach out to them. Meditation is a fantastic way to ground yourself and discover more about your authentic self; a self that is free from the outside world and societal pressures. If you want to meet your guardian angel, try using these meditation practices.

Clear Your Mind and Your Head

If you are about to sit down and spend some time meditating, make sure you refrain from having anything mood altering in your bloodstream, such as caffeinated teas and coffees, alcohol or any over-the-counter or recreational drugs. Clear and cleanse your body for at least 5 hours before you start meditating.

Cleanse The Room You Will Be Meditating In

It is paramount that the room you choose to meditate in is clean from dust and grime, as well as negative energy.  Burn some frankincense, sage or just open the windows to allow the static energy to flow out. You might clear out some negative energy out while you are doing so.

Choose A Comfortable Position

It doesn’t matter how you want to sit or lie, but many people who meditate like to lie flat on their back or sit in the lotus position. The main thing to do is to find a position you are completely comfortable in so you can achieve maximum relaxation.

Be Prepared To Take Some Notes

If you can place a pad and pen beside you while you are meditating, then this will be helpful when you see images or notice things in your meditation that may link you to your guardian angel. You may also see or hear your guardian angel’s name or see visions of your actual guardian angel when you are meditating. While your eyes are closed, write what you see or notice in your subconscious and don’t worry about what it looks like on paper. Do not force anything onto the paper and just allow your inner guide to take over. You might be able to make out your guardian angel’s name through your scribbles, giving you the chance to call them directly.

Get Ready To Possibly Meet Your Guardian Angel

Now that you are prepared to meet your guardian angel and have kept an open mind to meeting them during your spiritual journey of meditating, you can relax. Imagine yourself in the place you feel most comfortable. Some people may refer to it as their “happy place”.

Allow your worries, stresses and past pains to leave your body and welcome your guardian angel. Welcome your guardian angel internally, or you can physically speak out and ask them to come to you. Be prepared that they may present themselves in all types of forms in your meditative state. You may see an animal or a figure that you do not understand. Whatever you see and feel, welcome it with open arms and embrace the moment.

You will know within your soul whether your guardian crossed your spiritual path and as you repeat this process every chance you can, you will become closer to them. This connection will lead you onto a path of spiritual enlightenment, and you will, without a doubt, feel less alone in the world and protected.

Numerology and How it Works

Have you ever watched the movie (the number 23)? Did you feel puzzled and interested after watching the movie? Did you become more interested in numbers and what lies beneath? If you want to know more about the path your like will take or the obstacles that object your life, you may need to calculate your birth date.

How to calculate your number?

Write your birth date down, for instance: if your birth date is May 1st, 1982, write 05011982, then add all the numbers together as follows: 0+5+0+1+1+9+8+2, you would get a total of 26. Now, you need to simplify your number further, add 2+6 to get a single number, most of birth path numbers are a single digits, and if the number you get is 11 or 22, don’t reduce it further. Keep this number in mind because it is very important number.

What does your number mean?

To get the best information, it is recommended to consult a numerologist. However, we provide you with some of the numerology basics below. Find your number and know what lies beneath.

Birth Path Number: 1

Advantages: People who have birth bath number 1 are top leaders, and independent people.

Disadvantages: They also may be seen as stubbornness, arrogance, and impatience

Birth Path Number: 2

Advantages: People who have birth path number 2 are gentle, peace lovers, and considerate

Disadvantages: They may become so dependent

Birth Path Number: 3

Advantages: He or she is probably a people person, fun, energetic and sociable.

Disadvantages: They are still seen as confused, obsessed and superficial

Birth Path Number: 4

Advantages: They are very organized, hardworking, and practical.

Disadvantages: They may be seen as narrow-minded, bull headed, and argumentative.

Birth Path Number: 5

Advantages: You are very adaptative, meaning you can easily adapt to situations, no matter what comes up.

Disadvantages: Some people may see you irresponsible

Birth Path Number: 6

Advantages: They usually gain harmonious relationship in their lives

Disadvantages: However, they may be seen as controlling, and unwilling to change

Birth Path Number: 7

Advantages: They are deep thinkers and spiritual

Disadvantages: But they are still gloomy and melancholic

Birth Path Number: 8

Advantages: They are strong, successful, and ambitious

Disadvantages: But some people may see them as materialistic, forceful, and tense.

Birth Path Number: 9

Advantages: very  sympathetic and tolerant

Disadvantages: They are also moody, emotional, and restless.

Birth Path Numbers: 11 and 22

11 & 22 are master numbers and if you have birth bath number 11, then you are probably an innovator and a giver, however people may see you negatively as manipulative and too dependent.

For those who have birth path number 22 are idealists and visionaries, however they can be seen as dramatic and destructive.

If you want to reveal many things about your personality and destiny, then you need to know what your bath number is. Consult with a psychic now over the phone or online to learn more about your birth bath number.

Psychic Vampire Takes All Your Energy Away

As the name suggests, a vampire is a parasite that takes power, energy or life-force from its victims in order to survive. However, psychic vampires don’t creep in your windows and drink your blood. Instead, they drain you of your energy, sucking it up like a vacuum. And, it doesn’t matter whether you’ve heard the term “psychic vampire”, they can still be attacking you and siphoning off your energy.

It’s important to know that these psychic vampires can’t feed off of you if you aren’t somehow inviting them to. If you are projecting a lot of fear and anxiety, it’s like lighting a beacon that will draw them right to you. If you exude a sense of powerlessness into the world, that’s all the permission that a psychic vampire needs. You don’t actually have to consent consciously, but feeling like you’re too weak to say no to anyone or anything is enough. And they can detect this without you ever saying it out loud.

There is a line between selfishness and selflessness, and most individuals fall somewhere in between the two on the spectrum. But, the closer you are to the selfless end of that spectrum, the more willing you are to give people anything they want. Because you’re more likely to be viewed as a doormat, something to be walked all over, your psychic energy reflects this quality. And you’re likely consenting to giving someone parts of yourself without even realizing it. Your inability to say the word “no” is taken advantage of by someone who falls on the selfish end of the spectrum, assuming that just because you don’t say otherwise, they can do with you what they will.

By means of your willingness to give and to please, and the vampire’s willingness to take, the two of you become connected in a metaphysical sort of way. But, just because you can’t see the connection with the naked eye doesn’t mean that it’s not a strong connection. In fact, it has to be fairly strong in order for the vampire to siphon off significant amounts of your energy. The Hunas have described these connections as “cords” for centuries. In recent years, a therapist from California named Phyllis Krystal wrote a book called Cutting the Cords, which describes the cord/connection belief or the Hunans, and then goes on to explain various ways of “cutting” cords that are harmful to us.

You may be reading this and have the mistaken assumption that all psychic vampires are bad people, or that they are intentionally depriving you of your energy. This isn’t always the case, however. You can develop a deep friendship with someone, only to discover that they’re inadvertently draining you of your energy. In this case, it isn’t necessarily intentional, on either of your parts. You would most likely give your friend anything they needed, giving unconscious consent without even knowing that they could drain you of your energy. And they may not even know that they’re taking the energy from you. But, fear not. There ways to stop the attacks, and to keep yourself from draining other people, as well.

How to stop psychic vampires from draining you of your energy

If you suspect that you’ve been unconsciously submitting to psychic vampires draining you of your energy, one of the first things that you need to do is to very consciously declare that you aren’t submitting to this anymore. You also need to make known to yourself and the universe around you that, from now on, you will only give in healthy ways. This can happen in the form of a spoken mantra, where you state these points clearly, out loud and with purpose. You can then actually participate in healthy forms of giving, such as charity work, volunteering, etc.

The next thing that you’ll need to do is a form of visualization through meditation. While sitting quietly and meditating, ask to be shown all of the unhealthy connections to you. It’s helpful to know who your psychic vampire is, but not necessary. You then need to visualize yourself severing these ties in some way, such as pulling them out, cutting them with a scissors, or whichever way feels right to you in that moment. It’s important to note that you may have to repeat this visualization exercise until you feel that it’s done, meaning that you’ll likely have to do it more than once. But, once it’s done, be sure to forgive and bless all who were involved, including yourself. You should feel relief and a resurgence of energy within a few days.

How to stop yourself from draining energy from others

This is slightly trickier than simply dispelling a psychic vampire. If you suspect that you’re inadvertently draining others around you of their energy, it’s important that you first declare that you have no intention of doing this anymore. Say it out loud, clearly, and with intent. You need to firmly believe that you won’t do it again.

Whether you are a giver or a taker, you will likely encounter this interaction with some degree of frequency throughout the course of your life. Therefore, it’s important to know the signs that you are being drained, or that you are draining someone. Some people who are being drained report feeling dizzy and light-headed, and they often experience headaches or feel faint. But, everyone is different and your symptoms my differ, so you’ll need to pay attention and take note. And, you now have the knowledge to solve the problem in a loving, not spiteful way.

The Right Way Of Manifesting Power

       Janice and I met for tea time at our usual spot on the first Sunday of the month. It’s a standing date of ours as she’s my Law of Attraction buddy, so we meet to work on our manifesting superpowers while enjoying the best micro-roasted java in our neighborhood.

As we settled in, I told her, “I’m really struggling with detachment this month—it’s like my brain is just on ‘replay.’”

“Me, too! What planet can we blame it on—Venus?”

We laughed and decided to let Venus’ retro take the blame. Then we began our conversation in earnest.

The Law of Attraction (L of A) is a pet topic of mine right now because there is just so much nonsense out there about manifesting your desires. I myself was sucked into the easy, pop culture version of getting what you want, but, like many of my clients and friends, found that those methods totally didn’t work. Rather than getting cynical—tempting as that is—I went on a mission to discover how I realistically could make it work. The Law of Attraction is a powerful and real attribute of the Universe. But sister, it ain’t easy. Let’s get into what this law is really about and how to develop it as one of your superpowers.

Are You A Believer?

I’m going to say this straight up: if you don’t believe in something, then this law likely isn’t going to work for you. Whether you take the spiritual approach or the scientific angle, a fundamental aspect of the L of A is belief in a creative Universe. From God to quantum physics, there is a whole spectrum of ways to trust in the power of the human consciousness to create its reality.

Can You Just Shut Up?

Your monkey mind, that is. Central to using the L of A is the ability to quiet and focus the mind. Deepak Chopra—arguably a guy who has manifested a pretty good life—says that the first step to using what he calls the “Law of Intention and Desire” is to slip into the “gap.” The place of no mind, the space between inhaling and exhaling, the silence that exists—maybe only for nanoseconds—in-between thoughts.

In other words, to really make this law work, you need a meditative practice. It is inside the gap—in the brainwaves of alpha, theta, even delta—where you move past the lizard brain screaming out its alarms of scarcity and fear and release your desires to the Universe.

You’ve also got to shut out those negative, soul-sucking thought patterns that insist that you are powerless, too young, too old, too weird, too stupid—whatever. Instead, see yourself as a creative being with power over her own life. This will be easier with some kind of spiritual practice, but it isn’t necessary as long as you are aware. So, whether your thing is therapy, Tarot cards, prayer, or self-help books, work on opening your conscious awareness of your Self.

Tips for Manifesting

Once you’ve quieted your mind, you can start working the process of manifestation. Practicing this law is actually fairly simple—not to be confused with easy! But isn’t creating the life you want worth the effort?

Here is a basic framework for working with the L of A.

Make a list of what you desire. Look at it several times a day, daydream about it, and imagine what it would be like to have these things. Read the list aloud, then take it into the gap—a meditation space—with you. Visualize releasing your list to the Universe. Practice trusting that you are giving these desires to something else—God, your higher self, the matrix. Do this every day, maybe even twice a day. Unwavering focus on what you want is key.

• Don’t tell anybody what you want, unless they are true supporters and aligned with your best good. This is where a buddy can be helpful. Amalie and I believe in each other 100%, but remember that there are many people with reasons to smack your desires down—even if they love you.

• Release attachment to the outcome. Yeah. I know. The kicker. Because if you weren’t attached, you wouldn’t want it, right? Your meditation practice will help with detachment, but you have to really focus because most of us are grasping, scared, and hungry inside. We think things have to be a certain way. But when you’ve gotten something you wanted, was it exactly as you thought it might be? From jobs to lovers to dream abodes, usually there’s something you didn’t anticipate, and often it turns out even better than we imagined. That’s because we typically dream pretty small, and the Universe dreams big. So if we can trust, we can open ourselves to receiving the best version of what we want.

• Let the Universe handle the details. Remember the adage, “don’t worry about the how, just put it out there.” Letting go of controlling every detail helps you release attachment.

• Don’t try to manifest specific people doing specific things. Stick with your own desires. There are many other Laws of the Universe at play that also need to be followed for big stuff to really manifest, so just focus on you.

When you start working with the L of A, I recommend you embrace it for a good long time, like a workout regime or taking a class. Start smallish. Play with fun stuff like manifesting a certain article of clothing at the thrift store or a free cup of coffee. Once you see how this works, you can build your confidence for bigger things.

The Law of Attraction is not a vending machine from God dispensing Ferraris, diamond necklaces, and perfect boyfriends. It’s a spiritual law that is extremely effective but also takes some real energy on your part. Mediocre attention to manifestation will yield mediocre results. It does get easier with practice, but, like anything, you’ve got to do the work. Or play, as I like to think of it.

Consciously or unconsciously, our minds are always broadcasting signals of attraction. The more conscious we can become with manifestation, the more effectively we can create what we want (as opposed to what we don’t want, the specialty of the subconscious). Working on yourself is the way to becoming more aware and more powerful in your own life.

Better Life through Meditation and Affirmation

Meditation

Life can be so poor and ordinary. Meditation, coupled with Affirmation, is the tilling and the planting of seeds for your most beautiful garden! What do you want to see bloom in your life? 

  • Do you want to lose weight?
  • Earn more money?
  • Find the love of your life?
  • Live your purpose to the fullest extent?

Understanding Meditation

Powerful studies show the effectiveness of meditation. Meditation is often misunderstood. It does not have to be boring, nor done in the morning or right before bed. Meditation does not belong to one religion or culture. There are no rules to meditation. However, I believe regular practice time is important for general well-being.

Meditation is…

A handy tool that is with you all the time, wherever you go and whenever you need it.

An emotional, mind, body, and spirit “go-to” for when you need to feel centered and grounded.

A connection to your highest state of being and communication with God, Source, the Divine.

The calming of your mind, body, and emotions, meditation may be looked at as an equivalent to prayer time.

The Power of Affirmation

Carefully crafted affirmations are words that seed your whole being. The power of affirmation, mantras, and chants is recognized all over the world in many different societies and cultures. An affirmation is a positive thought that affirms a positive feeling. Your word is your magic wand, speak it, and so it is.

Examples of Positive Affirmations:

  • I am slim
  • I am joyful
  • I am healthy
  • I am a 6-figure income earner

You can be detailed in your affirmations; the more detailed you are, the more clear and profound the seed is for yourself and the Universe to recognize (i.e., are you just planting flowers in your garden? Or are you planting white roses, Shasta daisies, and mammoth sunflowers?)

Go into your state of meditation and chant aloud or repeat the words in your mind of your carefully crafted affirmation, and begin to feel you are living the words of your affirmation. The “I am” is the most powerful statement you can say; the “I am” claims what words you place after it. You may find this effective when you need a tool to shift or change your habitual thoughts or behaviors (for example: combating negative self-talk, putting down the cigarette, stepping away from the donut).

Meditating by feeling emotionally connected to your affirmation, your highest self, and God, you will begin to radiate a higher level of energy. As a result, you will begin to see changes happening in your life; opportunities will arise as the affirmations will transform from your words and thoughts to become manifest and realized.

You truly can live your dreams; the process is in universe and mind, body, and spirit alignment. This is a manifestation and implementation of the law of attraction.

A colorful garden full of life blooms awaits you! Begin your seeding now.

Be Free Through Travel

Travel

You don’t have to make laborious plans to have a memorable trip.  Sometimes the best adventures happen in the spur of the moment.  Sometimes the universe presents the perfect opportunity for a quick, soul-refreshing journey.

Spontaneity vs. Planned

When you plan a trip, you can make arrangements for side benefits such as a spa day or restaurant reservations.  You can also work extra things into your schedule. However, the only thing to look forward to is the adventure if you choose to travel on the fly.

Distance and company do not matter

When you take a spontaneous trip, you can take anyone and go anywhere. You don’t have to make arrangements for travel or accommodation. Since you are making the calls, you can decide or not!  There is a sense of empowerment when you realize that you are the one in charge and nothing will stop you or get in your way.

Ideas

If you do not think you are spontaneous enough to let yourself go, there are several apps you can out.  There are several that can help you take an idea all the way to an adventure.

Technology has many solutions. You can use GPS to help you decide what to do and where to go based on your location, even if you just jump in the car and head out.

TripAdvisor is a great resource for scoping out places to see and things to do.   If you don’t have access to a car, Zip Car may be a solution.  If you want to travel abroad, there is an app called Adioso. It can help you pick a place and keep an open agenda.

Your soul and your psyche need a break

Sometimes your very spirit wants a peaceful break and to get away from the routine. You will know when and where you need to go; your soul will tell you. It may be a quiet retreat in the hills. You may want to drive to the beach.   You can use your apps to help find the spot and set a budget.

No matter who you are, you deserve a respite from all of the trials and tribulations of daily life.  Traveling is an excellent way to get away from it all.  Any break is excellent for a change in perspective.