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Jump into Your Transformation

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Jump into Your Transformation

If you are reading this, you are ready for a change. But you’re also hesitating like the caterpillar who emerged as a butterfly from the cocoon. You know things have changed, but are you sure you’re ready?

It’s normal to feel that uncertainty and to want to be fully prepared before you take that first big leap. At the same time, waiting too long isn’t being prepared. It’s procrastinating. Do not let your uncertainty bloom into full-blown self-doubt.

This new direction is supposed to be an adventure. Go for it! You’re as ready as you’re ever going to be.

Embrace the Possibilities

Understand that you cannot just step out onto the mountaintop. You have to learn to climb, which means you have to take that first step. Focus on taking one step at a time instead of worrying about the air at the summit. By the time you get there, you’ll be a mountain climbing master. Getting caught up in the long road ahead will only overwhelm you. Don’t convince yourself of failure before you even try.

You will always feel like you’re not quite ready for the opportunities that come to you. But, like kids with a new pair of shoes, you’ll grow into them. Just start.

What’s stopping you?

Be honest with yourself. You are on the verge of living your best life and shining brilliantly in the face of the world. So what are you waiting for? You will struggle as long as you don’t admit that the only thing stopping you, is you.

Own Your Future

It’s easy to buy into concepts like fate and destiny. The idea of having a predetermined future absolves us from having much personal responsibility regarding where we end up. The thing is, fate is something you CAN influence. Your destiny will be whatever you make it. The universe may guide your choices, but you must make them yourself.

There is one hard and fast rule to living your best life. You have to let go of the things in your life that do not work in your favor. If it does not positively affect you, it needs to go. This can include friends, self-talk statements, habits, and routines. Break out of the small box you’ve managed to cram yourself into. Letting go of negative influences is easier said than done for most of us. But doing it will make all the difference in realizing your full, glorious potential. Be the butterfly, not the caterpillar.

Enjoy the Adventure

We’ve spent most of this time talking about your end goal. Don’t forget to enjoy the ride. Life is as much about the journey as it is about the destination. The difference now is that you are systematically removing the obstacles that stand between you and your dreams. Internal insecurities are nothing in the face of your new-found resolve. Appreciate your transformation as it happens, not just after it’s over.

How to Become the Best Version of Yourself

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Best Version of Yourself

How does your life compare to the one you wish you were living? Are you living out your dream? Why not? Your life is a direct reflection of how you feel about yourself. You are living the life you think you deserve.

That last sentence bothered you, didn’t it? Surely, you deserve more! You deserve to be happy and fulfilled in your life. The good news is, you can get there. You already have everything you need. I’m just going to show you how to get there.

One of the most common places we often feel like we deserve better is in our love lives. Why is it so difficult to find a quality partner and be happy with that person? You start to think you are unworthy or unattractive, but this is not the case!

From now on, we’re going to redefine our perspective. Feeling bad has never helped anyone. You want good vibes only because the higher, positive vibrations attract more positivity and joy.

Let’s practice a positive perspective. If you’re single, remind yourself that there is someone for everyone; and your ideal partner is also searching for you. Perhaps you already have a partner, but they don’t treat you well. Do not let their behavior make you feel less than lovable. You do not have to settle for less than what would make you happy. Everyone comes into our lives for a reason, but that doesn’t mean you must endure a frustrating relationship for the sake of having someone. You ARE able to walk away. Once you are over the initial pain of heartbreak, you will feel supremely empowered for having set a standard.

The world reflects what we put out. That is why the more you accept yourself, the better your life experiences will be. Find a hobby or activity that brings you joy and fulfillment. It could be volunteering in your community or learning a new skill like sewing or martial arts. The key is to find something that feels good to your soul. You need to feel a sense of achievement that remains positive over time.

You are not perfect. You must realize that you don’t have to be perfect. You just have to be yourself. You must understand that life will throw you curveballs, which is also okay. Inner peace comes through acceptance.

Spending time in deep self-reflection is a good idea every so often. Ask yourself some probing questions to really see where you are. Questions like:

  • Am I making sure I receive everything I have earned?
  • Am I satisfied or settling?
  • Is my inner voice positive and encouraging or negative and self-deprecating?
  • Am I taking responsibility for my own happiness?

Taking a personal inventory will keep you from sinking into a negative headspace when the goal is to live your best life.

You are worthy no matter what you have thought of yourself before this moment. Love yourself, and the world will respond accordingly. Happiness isn’t found. It is made.

Benefits of Paying It Forward

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Paying It Forward

A “pay it forward” principle promotes a great idea of random acts of kindness to strangers in the hope that they, in turn, will do something nice for someone else. Every day in some small way, you can brighten someone’s day with an act of kindness. Not only does it help someone else, but you benefit both mentally and physically.

Here’s how life-changing being kind to strangers can be:

  • Giving Makes You Happier

Did you know that people who spend a portion of their income on others tend to be far happier than those who don’t? This puts a new spin on money-buying happiness. It doesn’t have to be extravagant. It could be something small, such as paying someone’s bill or buying groceries for an elderly neighbor. The joy of giving seems to spark happiness in the brain. Humans are social animals and hardwired to help others. This is why helping someone gives you that warm, fuzzy feeling inside.

  • Giving Makes You Healthier

If a psychic reading online prompted you to take better care of your health, here’s an easy way to do so. Being kind to others will make you healthier. Several studies show that helping others can protect us from disease and prolong one’s life. Giving brings joy. When we’re joyful, our stress levels drop, and our immune system gets a boost. Compassion and empathy shove aside negative emotions and release those feel-good hormones called endorphins. And once the bug bites, you might find yourself craving more of the “helper’s high” and continually looking for ways to help others.

  • Kindness Builds Communities

Remember the saying “it takes a village to raise a child”? Many people have forsaken this philosophy and become self-centered. Gone are the days when kids asked the neighbor for a cup of sugar or when people sent casseroles to needy families. Today, people focus on looking out for themselves. In 2010, a Michigan University study found that college students had 40 percent less empathy than young people in the 1970s. As time has gone by, we’ve become less trusting and less giving. Showing neighborly kindness can mitigate many of the social ills plaguing communities.

  • Kindness Breaks Down Barriers

The news is littered with stories of terror and violence. Fear has made people suspicious and has even bred hatred. Yet, it is often amid tragedies that we see strangers helping strangers. This is because inherent in our human nature is the desire to help our fellow humans. Don’t wait for a clairvoyant to predict the next major tragedy to start helping others. Be more tolerant and understanding of others now. You’ll see that every person, irrespective of race, color, or creed, faces struggles and that we all need a helping hand from time to time.

We are living in turbulent times in a harsh world. However, we have the power to change that. As Whitney Anthony writes in her article on Tiny Buddha, “It’s the simple, unexpected acts of generosity that change lives, and a culmination of these small acts can change the world.”

Healing with Energy

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Healing with Energy

We have all heard about healing with energy. Unfortunately, most of what we hear is confusing, and all information seems to contradict anything previously heard.  This article will put together all of the information in a way you can understand.

The article will divide this type of healing into three categories. This article is a good way to help you start healing and improve your journey.

What is healing with energy?

We can say we use the Earth and Universe to recharge our psychic batteries.  We renew our energy to heal and survive. As spiritual beings, we need to connect to a source to keep us moving.  We need to connect our energy from our bodies to our minds.

Healing with energy allows the body actually to renew and heal itself naturally. We are more than just our physical body, made up of flesh and bone. Traditional Chinese Medicine uses energy chakras. Our current sciences reinforce the idea that we are all made of energy.  Reiki healing is becoming quite well-known. This is a form of energy healing.  If you can connect with your energy fields, you will be able to focus and gain a more positive outlook which, in turn, makes it easier for your body to heal itself.

Human beings are constantly working with electromagnetic pulses.  All of our physical and emotional problems are connected to a block or imbalance in our energy.  Our daily stress comes from a demanding life. This causes us to go out of balance, and this causes problems such as mood swings and insomnia.   Focusing on positive energy can help the body to heal.

Healers believe that our health issues begin when we are stressed. The stressor can block our energy. Stressors don’t just hurt our energy; they can be a barrier to overcome before we can grow as people.

We need to take care of ourselves. This care includes looking after our personal energies.

By healing our energy, we can clear away anything preventing us from reaching our full potential.

Healing in our mind

We all know that the mind is a very strong force. Our thoughts are connected to both our physical body and our body’s energy.  If our energy is blocked, we cannot reach our full potential.  A way to clear out any blockage is to clear the negative thoughts and energies is to let go of any resentment associated with past trauma and hurtful relationships.  Holding on to the negative will only lead to negative physical responses.

The best way to stay positive is to start each day anew.  Feel your emotions as they come and process your emotions as they come. This way, you can start each day with a clean slate, and it will help keep your body in balance.

Once you begin to balance out spiritually, you can be positive. This will allow you to see your life and the world from a  completely different perspective.  In addition, positive thoughts will protect you from negative energies.

You can also unblock your energies by consulting with a Reiki healer.   The Reiki practitioner will collect energy from the universe and convey it back to you.  This energy goes to where you need it most. You may need a few treatments for your energy to balance out completely.

You can find where your blockages lie by meditating.   Then, you can consult a healer to help you sense your blockages and teach you how to clear them.  These energy healers can see and interpret your aura colors.

What is an energy healing?

Energy is healed through any kind of therapy that works with our physical energy. This therapy helps us better access our body’s own natural healing tools.  In addition, identifying the current state of our body’s energies can help us avoid further or future injuries by helping actually to prevent future stress. There are several ways to heal our energies. Some examples are Reiki, as mentioned above, cleansing the aura, balancing the chakras, and even crystal healing.

While these methods are not a substitution for seeking medical help, they are a good way to get in touch and stay in touch with your spiritual side.  This can influence your mental state. It is important to know that healing through energy isn’t regulated by law. An energy healer does not need a license; however, these healers are usually certified in another type of healing, such as complementary or alternative medicine.

Many people associated with the health profession, such as nurses, counselors, and therapists, are drawn toward working with energy professionals.

When you seek an energy healer, you should ask how they work and their methods.   You can also ask if they have certifications or credentials.   Of course, you should also ask anything else to help ease your mind and soul.

Warning Signs Of A Dysfunctional Relationship

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Dysfunctional Relationship

People usually call me for help with their dysfunctional and chaotic relationships, but what does it actually mean? Well, a “functional” relationship is one that works for both people involved. However, dysfunctional relationships just feel wrong. Maybe something is missing in your relationship, or you don’t like the way your partner treats you—neglect, disrespect, or hurt. Maybe being with them is tiring, or you are carrying or supporting them through life. These are all signs of a dysfunctional relationship, but there are still more signs.

Here are some other signs to look out for:

  1. You’re in Romantic Limbo 
    Do you feel like your relationship isn’t going anywhere? If you do, that’s one of the signs of a dysfunctional relationship. Instead of taking the next steps (the steps you want to take), like marriage, having a child, buying a home, or meeting each other’s families, your partner refuses to make any kind of commitment—you’re in romantic limbo. And they get angry or defensive whenever you try to talk about it. Perhaps they have a fear of commitment as a result of a previous relationship. Perhaps they have a negative view of commitment because their parents had a bad marriage. As a result, they may say things like, “I don’t see myself ever settling down,” or “I’m not good at relationships.” If they’re willing, they could work on these issues, but if not, anyone who is with them is in a dysfunctional relationship.
  2. The Relationship is Dragging You Down
    Is your partner’s negative attitude getting the best of you? Are they projecting their negativity on you? If they blame you for their problems, that is one of the signs of a dysfunctional relationship. It’s also called emotional abuse! They may pick fights over stupid or trivial things and accuse you of being argumentative. You may even blame yourself for their unhappiness, but the truth is you have a toxic partner, and if that’s the case, run, don’t walk away.
  3. You Just Make Each Other Miserable
    You may have shared some good times in the past, but now you just make each other miserable for no apparent reason. If the good times outweigh the bad, this is one of the signs of a dysfunctional relationship. The truth is you may just be incompatible, and a love psychiccan tell you that. In this case, no one is to blame; your personalities just clash, and you both want different things. It’s really better just to part amicably and not waste any more time and energy on your relationship.
  4. You’re Doing Most of the Work 
    If you’re doing most of the work, that’s a sign of a dysfunctional relationship. If you always make plans, work on your communication skills, and constantly try to make your partner happy, you must feel exhausted all the time. Do they cancel the dates you plan and say they’re too busy? They think their time is more important than yours. Relationships can’t be 50/50 all the time, but if you give 80% or more all the time, you are in a dysfunctional relationship.

Accept It or Let It Go

Every relationship requires compromises, and you’ll probably not get 100% of what you want, but if you love each other enough, you can work on it. Still, you may need professional help. For example, suppose the person you love is persistently unwilling to do their part in cooperating with the process. In that case, you must make a choice: Either accept things the way they are and try to be happy in your dysfunctional relationship or let it go because it won’t change.

Letting go of an unhealthy relationship is not easy, but it is a huge relief when you finally reach that point. How will you know when it’s time? Listen to your heart. Feel your pain. Some people are more patient than others; only you can decide when you’ve had enough. I’m not here to push you, but I am here to help you gain clarity. I will support you through the process of becoming free so that you can be ready for the real love you want and deserve.

Am I Too Big?

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Am I Too Big

Our society puts so much pressure on a woman’s appearance that it leads many otherwise sensible ladies to obsess over eating habits, wrinkles, and wardrobe, to the point of misery.

Check out these signs that you’ve allowed your obsessions over weight to hold you, your life, and your happiness hostage:

  1. You Need Prozac After a Day of Shopping

For some women (of the past few generations at least), gone are shopping days with excitement and ease. While acquiring new things may still hold appeal, trying on numerous pieces of clothing that only make you feel bad about your body gets old fast. Suppose you aren’t in the small percentage of women who can look as good in the clothes as the perfectly proportioned. In that case, if not under-nourished looking—mannequins in the window, trying on the same outfit can definitely dampen your spirits. Suppose the thought of clothes puts you into a major funk. In that case, your negative obsessive thoughts impede your enjoyment of what most women for centuries have considered a fabulous female pastime.

A method for recapturing the joys of shopping involves a different perspective and learning to appreciate your finer points. It is easy to fall for the media’s skinny-crazed campaigns and messages. You don’t have to buy into it; instead, look around at the other women in your environment. You will discover that it is much more common to find women heavier and not perfectly proportioned. Knowing and loving your body makes all the difference in how you feel, carry yourself, and others see you.

  1. You’re Addicted to the Gym and Maniac Workouts

Exercising can be a wonderful and healthy addition to any lifestyle but in moderation. Unless you are training for the Olympics or planning on taking on the superstar of WWF Wrestling, working out for hours on end, day after day, can quickly go from a healthy habit to an unhealthy obsession. Exercise has many benefits for your body—and a healthy diet can aid in weight loss—but taking the exercises too far and hard can cause potential injuries, blackouts, and a gym-obsessed persona that often alienates others in your life.

  1. You’re Counting Calories Like Ebenezer Scrooge Counts His Coins

Being conscientious about what goes into your body can be a great benefit for longevity and good health. If your goal is weight loss, it is important to remember to get the nutrients your body needs as well. Obsessing constantly about every calorie that crosses your lips will quickly make you miserable. Eating is one of the pleasures of being human, and while it is good to eat responsibly, life is too short for every thought to revolve around what you can and cannot have. Better to focus on living a balanced and healthy lifestyle where you can occasionally savor the sinfully caloric treats you love.

The focus needs to remain on being happy and healthy, not counting calories and being miserable. Enjoy the body you have, flaws, scars, and if you do make changes, take it slow.

Your Astral Element

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Astral Element

The physical world is made up of four different elements. These elements interact with each other and are dependent on each other.  These elements are Earth, Air, Wind, and Fire. These are also viewed as temperaments in people.

These temperaments represent the different characteristics along with the strengths and weaknesses of the various signs of the zodiac.

  • The signs that align with Fire:

Leo, Aries, Sagittarius

Fire is destructive as well as life-giving.  These signs are as powerful and energetic as their element.  These signs also indicate impulsivity and great passion. They are persistent and goal-oriented. However, they need to take care to avoid burning out.

  • The signs associated with Earth:

Taurus, Virgo, Capricorn

These signs are grounded and the most stable of all of the elements.  So it is no surprise that these are connected with  Earth. Those who are born under these signs make excellent friends, and they are loyal.  The downside to this is that it may be hard to shift from their comfortable environment.

  • Air Element Signs:

Libra, Gemini, and Aquarius

Movement and change are directly connected to these signs. Thus, people born under these signs are very persuasive.  They also love to shake things up.  They are lots of fun to take on and adventure.

  • Signs connected with water:

Pisces, Cancer, and Scorpio

Like the fire signs, the water signs can be hurtful and helpful.  They are very imaginative and extremely passionate.  They crave security to help contain them.

Understanding the elementals assists in our understanding of the fabric into which each sign is woven.  This information helps us connect with each other with patience and understanding. People with complementary elements will get along very well.

Is Being an Angel to Others Hurting You?

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Being an Angel

Whenever we think of angels, we think of spiritual light and wings filled with unconditional love, assisting for the purpose of our highest good. My guides tell me that there are incarnate angels here on Earth.

Some angels incarnate as humans simply to experience the contrast of painful emotions. I am also told that some souls take on angelic traits for many reasons—some relating to past life experiences or some connected to soul purpose experiences.

For this purpose, it does not matter which path of origin—there are still common angelic traits linked to creating your human personality. The combination of those qualities gives people what I call Angelic Eyes. When I help people identify and understand their Angelic Eyes helps bring clarity to relationships, both past, and present. Those with Angelic Eyes stand out with their level of compassion, love, understanding, and forgiveness. They tend to be selfless, and others find them to be great listeners. In fact, many have such mesmerizing energy that they attract others, even strangers, with little to no effort. Strangers often overshare simply because they feel the security of their brilliant aura.

Healers and Helpers

Angelic Eyes want to see the good in all. Most are intuitive and insightful and genuinely want to help. They are healers at the very core of their being. They are very giving, tend to give more than they receive, and often have difficulty saying no. Generally, those with Angelic Eyes will not ask for help because it goes against their core.

Loving a Person’s Potential

Seeing and experiencing life through Angelic Eyes can be very rewarding and fulfilling when you attract those who appreciate and respect you. However, having Angelic Eyes can mean taking on relationships that refuse to be helped. Remember, we are human and feel pleasure, pain, conflict, and joy. Relationships created through Angelic Eyes can be very rewarding at first and then stall. Yes, you see a beautiful soul with the potential to have a wonderful life together, and you fall in love with that person’s potential. You feel drawn to help them be better. You want to heal their pain. You want to help them achieve love and balance. You want to help them create a happier life you truly know they deserve.

Frustrations

However, having Angelic Eyes can also attract relationships that leave you feeling helpless and hopeless or exhausted and overwhelmed. Those with Angelic Eyes can find themselves feeling frustrated. Sometimes the one you love so deeply cannot see their fears or issues, and a cycle begins to emerge. The more you try to help, the more they will resent you and feel you are trying to change them. People with Angelic Eyes often stay longer than they should, even when the relationship becomes dysfunctional. They accept the abuse and negative experiences and sacrifice their happiness because they hope their partners will finally start to appreciate them. Is it possible? Yes. Is it probable? No.

A Familiar Feel

If you put others’ needs before your own and you stay longer than you should, it begins to stagnate the growth within you. You must find a way to empower yourself to stop. Remember, you are in control of your decisions. As healers, you want to heal. You see a wounded soul and are drawn to heal and help, sometimes even subconsciously—all because of your Angelic Eyes. When you start to look at yourself and your relationships—both past and present—you may start to notice a familiar feel to these Angelic Eyes.

A Perfect Life?

Just because you take on the characteristics of the angelic realm doesn’t mean you’ll have a perfect life. Sometimes, quite the opposite is true. Set healthy boundaries, learn to say no, and acknowledge your angelic qualities within. Sometimes, just understanding yourself helps you understand why and what you are doing with that person. It is okay to help. It is okay to offer support, but you must remember that free will exists. Please understand that you can only do so much.

You Can’t Fix People

Understand that you cannot fix people. They have to fix themselves. Did you hear me? You cannot fix them! You must stop beating your head against those unmovable objects because it’s unhealthy. Remember, you are a good person and deserve to be with someone who honors and respects the angel you are. So be an angel and take care of yourself!

If these words resonate, I can help bring clarity to your angelic self. Let’s talk! I would love to help.

High Season For Breakups

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High Season For Breakups

It’s a high season for break up. New Year, new you, and maybe a new lover…, right? Well, many couples break up after the holidays for various reasons. Maybe it’s the pressure to get engaged or the expectation of meeting friends, family, or coworkers.

Whatever the reason, if you’re thinking that staying with someone if you aren’t happy, any more is a big mistake.

You’re Suffering From Seasonal Stress

Seasonal breakup disorder is about to unleash itself on many relationships, and the main culprit is the additional stress and spending that the holiday season brings. Then there is the surge of guilt and that desire to start a new year off on the right foot. So if you feel like things between you two are getting worse, it could just be due to the added stress of the holidays. So why not get through the holidays and see how you feel early next year?

You Think Only an Expensive Gift Will Do  

Do you think you have to blow your budget on an expensive gift for them to prove your love? You don’t! You can get creative and sentimental for your true soulmate. They’ll care more about the message your gift sends than the actual gift you give them. And if they’re not your soulmate, all will be revealed.

You Need to Sort Out Your Feelings

People tend to get caught up in the romantic nature of the season. As a result, they may feel like something is missing from their relationship because they aren’t as in love as they “should” be. But the holidays shouldn’t define where you are in your relationship. If you aren’t committed or as close as you think you should be, you could have the holidays to blame. Wait until they’re over to sort out your feelings.

You Don’t Want to Bring Them to Your Office Holiday Party

Just because your office is having a holiday party doesn’t mean you must bring a date. Some people like to keep their work and private lives separate, and you can explain that to your significant other and your coworkers. Also, you can leave your significant other at home instead of dumping them.

You Realize They’re Just a Hookup

Maybe the holidays have made you reevaluate your connection to your significant other, and you realize they’re not that significant. That’s okay. There is nothing wrong with having a casual, sexual relationship if both of you agree to it. Don’t feel like you need to be with your soulmate just because it’s the holidays. You may not be ready for a serious relationship, so why not enjoy something casual and fun?

It’s Just Marketing

The holidays have the tendency to cloud our judgment. We’re bombarded with romantic ads wherever we turn, but the truth is, it’s just marketing. Don’t break up with someone just because they don’t fit the mold of what you think a holiday relationship is supposed to be. Instead, get through the holidays and then reevaluate your relationship once the seasonal madness ends.

Too Independent to Be in a Relationship?

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Too Independent to be in a Relationship?

Being in relationships is usually a wonderful thing for some but for others… it’s not at the top of their priority list. If you’re looking for love and having difficulty finding it, you could be giving off the vibe that you’re too independent for a relationship and may not even realize it. And how is anyone to know who you are—the one looking for love or who’s just fine on their own? You must let people know because most people don’t read minds.

The best way to fix something is to find out why it’s not working in the first place. So, here are three clues that your independence may be killing your chances of finding love and having that great relationship. I’ve also included three ways to bust that dam wide open and start flooding your calendar with dates.

  • Clue No. 1: You Never Ask for Help

We know you’re no stranger to rearranging furniture or hanging curtain rods. We all know that you’re perfectly capable of climbing that ladder you bought at the home improvement store and driving a few screws with your handy-dandy, pink power screw gun. But what if you asked someone to help? Just because you can do something on your own, it doesn’t necessarily mean you have to. So here’s your chance to open up and let others in. It could be curtain rods, a flat tire, or tax advice—it doesn’t matter. What matters is that seeking advice helps you connect with others, and it’s good practice for when you’re actually in a relationship. No man/woman is an island.

  • Clue No. 2: You Only Socialize With Single People

If you and your friends are all single, you’re probably still in your 20s. What? Are you not? Then why don’t you have any married or in-a-relationship friends? Nothing says “I’m independent and don’t need a relationship,” like having single friends. Friends with spouses have friends and family— a whole new group of people you’d probably never meet on your own and certainly not meet if you’re out at some random bar with a gaggle of girls in a sea of singletons. Let me throw you a life raft: If you’re really serious about finding love, then let people who are already in love give you a hand. Sure, it can suck being the third, fifth, or even seventh wheel. But your married friends will rush to your side and help you find someone who could be just right for you. Who knows you better than your closest friends?

  • Clue No. 3: You Ignore Unsolicited Advice

Do you blow up at friends when they offer advice? Do you blow them off and ignore them when they ask uncomfortable questions? If so, you’re not only independent, but you’re also probably pretty lonely. For example, what would you say if a friend asked you if you liked being single? If you say “yes,” (even if you don’t mean it), then your friend won’t give you advice or try to set you up.

How’s Being Single Working for You?

We’re taught that people who are independent don’t express needs, wants, or desires. When they have a goal, they get it done on their own and in their own time. Okay. So how’s that working for you? Exactly.

Swallow Your Pride

Don’t bite off the hand that’s offering you advice. Instead, take a healthy chunk out of that pride of yours and swallow it. Tell your friends, “No, I hate being single. Do you have any suggestions?” Be honest with yourself and them. Being independent is an asset, but not accepting help when it’s offered is just asinine, and that certainly doesn’t describe you. You’re not only independent, but you’re also smart too. Aren’t you? I knew it.