Whenever we think of angels, we think of spiritual light and wings filled with unconditional love, assisting for the purpose of our highest good. My guides tell me that there are incarnate angels here on Earth.

Some angels incarnate as humans simply to experience the contrast of painful emotions. I am also told that some souls take on angelic traits for many reasons—some relating to past life experiences or some connected to soul purpose experiences.

For this purpose, it does not matter which path of origin—there are still common angelic traits linked to creating your human personality. The combination of those qualities gives people what I call Angelic Eyes. When I help people identify and understand their Angelic Eyes helps bring clarity to relationships, both past, and present. Those with Angelic Eyes stand out with their level of compassion, love, understanding, and forgiveness. They tend to be selfless, and others find them to be great listeners. In fact, many have such mesmerizing energy that they attract others, even strangers, with little to no effort. Strangers often overshare simply because they feel the security of their brilliant aura.

Healers and Helpers

Angelic Eyes want to see the good in all. Most are intuitive and insightful and genuinely want to help. They are healers at the very core of their being. They are very giving, tend to give more than they receive, and often have difficulty saying no. Generally, those with Angelic Eyes will not ask for help because it goes against their core.

Loving a Person’s Potential

Seeing and experiencing life through Angelic Eyes can be very rewarding and fulfilling when you attract those who appreciate and respect you. However, having Angelic Eyes can mean taking on relationships that refuse to be helped. Remember, we are human and feel pleasure, pain, conflict, and joy. Relationships created through Angelic Eyes can be very rewarding at first and then stall. Yes, you see a beautiful soul with the potential to have a wonderful life together, and you fall in love with that person’s potential. You feel drawn to help them be better. You want to heal their pain. You want to help them achieve love and balance. You want to help them create a happier life you truly know they deserve.

Frustrations

However, having Angelic Eyes can also attract relationships that leave you feeling helpless and hopeless or exhausted and overwhelmed. Those with Angelic Eyes can find themselves feeling frustrated. Sometimes the one you love so deeply cannot see their fears or issues, and a cycle begins to emerge. The more you try to help, the more they will resent you and feel you are trying to change them. People with Angelic Eyes often stay longer than they should, even when the relationship becomes dysfunctional. They accept the abuse and negative experiences and sacrifice their happiness because they hope their partners will finally start to appreciate them. Is it possible? Yes. Is it probable? No.

A Familiar Feel

If you put others’ needs before your own and you stay longer than you should, it begins to stagnate the growth within you. You must find a way to empower yourself to stop. Remember, you are in control of your decisions. As healers, you want to heal. You see a wounded soul and are drawn to heal and help, sometimes even subconsciously—all because of your Angelic Eyes. When you start to look at yourself and your relationships—both past and present—you may start to notice a familiar feel to these Angelic Eyes.

A Perfect Life?

Just because you take on the characteristics of the angelic realm doesn’t mean you’ll have a perfect life. Sometimes, quite the opposite is true. Set healthy boundaries, learn to say no, and acknowledge your angelic qualities within. Sometimes, just understanding yourself helps you understand why and what you are doing with that person. It is okay to help. It is okay to offer support, but you must remember that free will exists. Please understand that you can only do so much.

You Can’t Fix People

Understand that you cannot fix people. They have to fix themselves. Did you hear me? You cannot fix them! You must stop beating your head against those unmovable objects because it’s unhealthy. Remember, you are a good person and deserve to be with someone who honors and respects the angel you are. So be an angel and take care of yourself!

If these words resonate, I can help bring clarity to your angelic self. Let’s talk! I would love to help.

It’s a high season for break up. New Year, new you, and maybe a new lover…, right? Well, many couples break up after the holidays for various reasons. Maybe it’s the pressure to get engaged or the expectation of meeting friends, family, or coworkers.

Whatever the reason, if you’re thinking that staying with someone if you aren’t happy, any more is a big mistake.

You’re Suffering From Seasonal Stress

Seasonal breakup disorder is about to unleash itself on many relationships, and the main culprit is the additional stress and spending that the holiday season brings. Then there is the surge of guilt and that desire to start a new year off on the right foot. So if you feel like things between you two are getting worse, it could just be due to the added stress of the holidays. So why not get through the holidays and see how you feel early next year?

You Think Only an Expensive Gift Will Do  

Do you think you have to blow your budget on an expensive gift for them to prove your love? You don’t! You can get creative and sentimental for your true soulmate. They’ll care more about the message your gift sends than the actual gift you give them. And if they’re not your soulmate, all will be revealed.

You Need to Sort Out Your Feelings

People tend to get caught up in the romantic nature of the season. As a result, they may feel like something is missing from their relationship because they aren’t as in love as they “should” be. But the holidays shouldn’t define where you are in your relationship. If you aren’t committed or as close as you think you should be, you could have the holidays to blame. Wait until they’re over to sort out your feelings.

You Don’t Want to Bring Them to Your Office Holiday Party

Just because your office is having a holiday party doesn’t mean you must bring a date. Some people like to keep their work and private lives separate, and you can explain that to your significant other and your coworkers. Also, you can leave your significant other at home instead of dumping them.

You Realize They’re Just a Hookup

Maybe the holidays have made you reevaluate your connection to your significant other, and you realize they’re not that significant. That’s okay. There is nothing wrong with having a casual, sexual relationship if both of you agree to it. Don’t feel like you need to be with your soulmate just because it’s the holidays. You may not be ready for a serious relationship, so why not enjoy something casual and fun?

It’s Just Marketing

The holidays have the tendency to cloud our judgment. We’re bombarded with romantic ads wherever we turn, but the truth is, it’s just marketing. Don’t break up with someone just because they don’t fit the mold of what you think a holiday relationship is supposed to be. Instead, get through the holidays and then reevaluate your relationship once the seasonal madness ends.

Being in relationships is usually a wonderful thing for some but for others… it’s not at the top of their priority list. If you’re looking for love and having difficulty finding it, you could be giving off the vibe that you’re too independent for a relationship and may not even realize it. And how is anyone to know who you are—the one looking for love or who’s just fine on their own? You must let people know because most people don’t read minds.

The best way to fix something is to find out why it’s not working in the first place. So, here are three clues that your independence may be killing your chances of finding love and having that great relationship. I’ve also included three ways to bust that dam wide open and start flooding your calendar with dates.

• Clue No. 1: You Never Ask for Help

We know you’re no stranger to rearranging furniture or hanging curtain rods. We all know that you’re perfectly capable of climbing that ladder you bought at the home improvement store and driving a few screws with your handy-dandy, pink power screw gun. But what if you asked someone to help? Just because you can do something on your own, it doesn’t necessarily mean you have to. So here’s your chance to open up and let others in. It could be curtain rods, a flat tire, or tax advice—it doesn’t matter. What matters is that seeking advice helps you connect with others, and it’s good practice for when you’re actually in a relationship. No man/woman is an island.

• Clue No. 2: You Only Socialize With Single People

If you and your friends are all single, you’re probably still in your 20s. What? Are you not? Then why don’t you have any married or in-a-relationship friends? Nothing says “I’m independent and don’t need a relationship,” like having single friends. Friends with spouses have friends and family— a whole new group of people you’d probably never meet on your own and certainly not meet if you’re out at some random bar with a gaggle of girls in a sea of singletons. Let me throw you a life raft: If you’re really serious about finding love, then let people who are already in love give you a hand. Sure, it can suck being the third, fifth, or even seventh wheel. But your married friends will rush to your side and help you find someone who could be just right for you. Who knows you better than your closest friends?

• Clue No. 3: You Ignore Unsolicited Advice

Do you blow up at friends when they offer advice? Do you blow them off and ignore them when they ask uncomfortable questions? If so, you’re not only independent, but you’re also probably pretty lonely. For example, what would you say if a friend asked you if you liked being single? If you say “yes,” (even if you don’t mean it), then your friend won’t give you advice or try to set you up.

How’s Being Single Working for You?

We’re taught that people who are independent don’t express needs, wants, or desires. When they have a goal, they get it done on their own and in their own time. Okay. So how’s that working for you? Exactly.

Swallow Your Pride

Don’t bite off the hand that’s offering you advice. Instead, take a healthy chunk out of that pride of yours and swallow it. Tell your friends, “No, I hate being single. Do you have any suggestions?” Be honest with yourself and them. Being independent is an asset, but not accepting help when it’s offered is just asinine, and that certainly doesn’t describe you. You’re not only independent, but you’re also smart too. Aren’t you? I knew it.

 You’ve been looking for love, but it seems like forever, and you’re not finding it yet… The great news is, you can attract it — and doing so is easier than you think! At least, that’s what practitioners of the ancient Chinese art of Feng Shui say. In fact, singles looking for love may be the perfect people to try this long-used method of creating abundance in life, specifically in love!

Take these 3 tips (both practical and theoretical) for drawing in the partner you’ve been seeking.

• Make room for love

The first thing you want to do to make room for love is quite literally to make room for a lover! This means your bed should never be flush up against a wall. Instead, there should be room for two people to climb in on either side; ideally, side tables should be on both the left and right sides of your bed. This tells the universe that you’re prepared to accommodate a mate and, in turn, open yourself up to finding one.

While you’re at it, consider how this ideal can be applied more figuratively. Are you a closed-off person? Do you tend to shy away from speaking with new people at social events? Are you so focused on not appearing desperate that you come off as aloof? One of the most important things you can do metaphysically if you want to find love is to be open to it. You have to try your best to be welcoming rather than apprehensive. And even if you are frightened (after all, change is not easy for any of us, and having someone in your life would certainly add a new element into the mix), you must be brave. You have to believe that the right person will come along and accept the truth that you’re going to have to kiss some frogs on the way to your prince. Otherwise, how would you recognize him?!

• The power of two

Feng Shui experts say one of the best ways a singleton can promote finding love is to decorate with the magical number two in mind. What does this mean?

Well, if you want to be stringent in your Feng Shui following, you should place two swans or two cranes (any animals that mate for life) in the far right corner of your bedroom. But if two animal figures wouldn’t exactly go with your décor, consider instead two red candles in that same space. On that same note, try to keep most decorative flourishes in pairs, particularly in the bedroom and kitchen. Symbolically, that’s the heart and soul of a home — relationships (and people) are “fed” there.

In a less practical (but equally vital) way, start thinking of yourself as part of a pair. If you can’t imagine yourself as anything but single, it’s going to be harder for you to find love. It may be a stretch (particularly if you’ve been single for a while), but try to imagine what it would feel like to be in a relationship — or even better, what you want to feel like in your ideal pairing. As you start to envision yourself not just as loved but as loving, you will begin to feel as you imagine yourself feeling. This energy shift may be just the thing you need to attract the partner of your dreams!

• It’s in the eye of the beholder

Love depends upon your ability to see yourself in it (see the last tip)! This isn’t just some New Age gobbley-gook; it’s true. Most people who date easily do so because they expect to have a partner. While they may occasionally doubt themselves, on the whole, they believe they are worthy of love and can — and will — wind up happy with someone. On the other hand, those who struggle the most allow themselves to live in fear of never finding someone. They settle for the easy rather than the right way and often either cling to the wrong mate despite knowing they’re not well-matched or steer clear of potential partners altogether. Feng Shui practitioners believe that we must envision ourselves in the relationship we desire, with a mate we desire, in order to see that relationship come to fruition.

So what can you do, practically speaking, to express your newfound vision of love? First, buy yourself a gift that symbolizes your ideal (not idealized) relationship and place it somewhere prominent in your home. That way, you can look at it often and imagine yourself where you want to be. Imagination, as we know, is the first step to creation, and by envisioning yourself as part of a pair, you’re on your way to finding that other half!

Dating is hard. It’s not just hard; it’s nerve-wracking. You never know when you go on a date if it will work or won’t or if you are going to invest time, make-up, and hair products only to get your heart broken.

If only there were a way to figure out if someone is going to break your heart.

It turns out there are a few signs to look for to determine whether or not your heart will survive.

Some things to be aware of include meeting the family, how he treats you, and if he is still in contact with his ex.

A terrific indicator is if he tells you straight out that he is not looking for a relationship. This is a very clear sign.  Suppose he tells you that he is not looking for anything serious.  Sometimes a man will say this to see if you are truly interested. It’s a big trap to fall into, so be wary.

• He can’t decide one way or the other.   So don’t look for excuses if he waffles between being sweet and available and being aloof and cold. His interests clearly lie elsewhere, and it is not with you.
• He avoids your family.  If he doesn’t want to join you on any family outings, it means that he is trying to remain removed so that he doesn’t have to introduce you to his family.  This doesn’t mean that he has a big secret to hide just because he doesn’t want to go to your Aunt Edna’s funeral. If he continually avoids family affairs, that’s a big warning sign
• A rose by any other name would smell as sweet. This is all well and good for Shakespeare, but if he won’t refer to you as his girlfriend or date, he is distancing himself from you.
• No phone calls, please. If he doesn’t answer his phone when you are around, or even if it’s not in plain sight is not always a bad thing. He may have excellent manners and is trying to focus on you.  However, if he is edgy every time his phone rings and he sneaks away to look at a text or answer a call, he could be juggling a few relationships and is not ready to settle for one.
• He’s a dreamer: He always talks about things he is going to do. It could be planning for the two of you in the future or plans he has of whisking you away on vacation, or even the home he hopes the two of you will share once he gets a big promotion. If he makes big plans but doesn’t do anything to make them happen.  He is not deeply rooted in the realities of nurturing a relationship
• He keeps in contact with his exes.  He may be the nicest guy in the world who is genuinely interested in maintaining friendships with everyone in his life, or he could just not be over the relationship he had with his ex or exes. He may be comparing you to them or may not be ready to embark on something new. He can only commit to you when he lets them go.
• He turns to you for advice over and over and over

If he constantly complains and comes to you with a litany of events in which he was wronged, be warned. He may never see you as anything but a friend to whom he can vent.  It’s nice to be needed, but not if you need more than that.

Some people would judge you that you’re being overly dramatic when someone leaves you, but they don’t have any idea that being dumped is one of the worst feelings on earth. The worst part is knowing that while your ex is off living a fabulous life, you can’t stop thinking about them.

Here are our top three ways to get your ex out of your head and get sweet revenge:

• Let go
  

Letting go of love is the hardest part of being dumped. While your ex has been letting go of you in preparation for the breakup, you’re still as attached as ever. So when they suddenly pull the rug out of from under you, you’re not necessarily ready to let go of your life together. In the beginning, it’s natural to cling to whatever souvenirs you have left of your relationship. You may find yourself eating at their favorite restaurant, sleeping in their old t-shirt, or re-watching the movie you saw on your first date together. You do these things because you want to feel close to the person you miss so much.

But whether you want to or not, eventually, you have to put distance where there was once closeness. Bit by bit, you must begin to let go of the tiny pieces of your relationship. As you let go of your life with your ex, embrace the new life in front of you: the amazing life that is yours and yours alone.

• Love again
  

Your first impulse after a breakup may be to move on into someone else’s arms. Not only will it ease your loneliness, you’re sure it will make you feel wanted again after the sting of rejection. And most of all, the idea of you and another love will infuriate your ex with jealousy.

But as exciting as vengeance between the sheets may seem, having a one-night stand might not end up hurting anyone but you. Instead, the morning after, you could end up feeling even more lonely and insecure than before the tryst.

While rebounding with a perfect stranger sounds like a delicious way to get even, real revenge is moving on in a meaningful way. First, open your heart to all kinds of people – not just potential lovers. Be kind to friends and family, reach out to neighbors in need, and learn to love yourself in a more profound way. Then, once you’ve brought more universal love into your life, you can move on and begin to look for the right partner to share romantic love with.

• Live well
  

Some people say that the best revenge is living well. They’re right. The only way to get your ex out of your life is to fill your life with so many other wonderful things that there’s no room for them anymore!

Being dumped often leaves you feeling helpless and out of control. But you can reclaim the power over your destiny by channeling your pain and anger into positive energy. Use this time as an opportunity to grow, change, and become the best version of yourself you can possibly be.

Spend time with friends you’re usually too busy for. Study something you’ve always wanted to learn about. Take up a new hobby. Get into shape. Go on vacation.

Not only will your new life distract you from the pain of your breakup, but it will also leave you happier and healthier than you were with your ex. And really, what’s sweeter revenge than that?