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Signs You’re Doing it Wrong

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Concentrating on the Negative

Relationships, especially when first dating, can be extremely tough. You may want to find the right person, but cannot seem to get past the first few days or advance the relationship in other ways. This is not uncommon, but the good news is it can be corrected. The biggest obstacle we face in terms of a long-term relationship is often ourselves.

Below are eleven signs that you are sabotaging yourself when it comes to relationships:

  • Concentrating on the Negative

Whether meeting for the first time or have been in a relationship for quite some time, focusing on the negative is damaging. Constant complaining about anything, especially your partner can lead to a fast separation. Instead of focusing on the negative, focus on the good things and allow the minor negatives to fade away as you grow closer to one another.

  • Talking About Past Relationships

Though it is tempting to jump right in and discuss past relationships, get to know each other in other ways first. Eventually, past relationships may come up, but there is no need to push the issue. Even if you choose to get physical, take precautions and learn about their past as you grow closer. Make sure you are not comparing a future partner to a past one as well because this is not fair to you or your potential companion.

  • Pretending to be Something You are Not

Starting a relationship with a lie will always get you into trouble. Whether catfishing someone online, hoping they will forgive you once you meet, or lying about being interested in something you are not, just be honest instead. If you are not vegan, hate football, or know nothing about video games, be honest about who you are and how you typically behave. The truth will eventually come out, so start off on the right foot.

  • Needing to be Right

Most people know that one person that will argue about everything because they have a need to be right. If you do not know this person, you are this person. No one likes to be told they are wrong all the time or spend time with a know-it-all. Dial things back and allow some compromise in the budding relationship or you will remain lonely.

  • You Feel Unworthy

Self-esteem or a lack of it can tank a relationship. If someone agrees to go out with you or asks you out, know you are worthy of their time. We can often feel like others are better or know more, but the truth is we all have room to improve. Take the time to get to know the person you are with and know they just want to get to know you as well.

  • You Do not Express Your Needs

We all have needs, desires, and wants. Part of being honest with your partner is expressing these needs in a calm manner so the needs can be met. Never expect your partner to be a mind reader. If you need something, let them know what it is so they can consider fulfilling that need. This is not just about physical needs, but emotional ones as well.

  • Not Spending Time Together

Relationships cannot survive constant separation, nor being together at all times. While it can be easy to let life get in the way of the relationship, do not forget that you need to spend time with your partner. If you are never together, how do you expect to grow closer?

  • You Undervalue Your Partner

Just like constant complaining, undervaluing your partner will drive them away. Even if your partner is not the best at everything, value what they do bring to the table. Give them credit for trying and then work together to improve in different areas.

  • Walking Away is Easy

Challenges arise in every relationship, but how these challenges are handled says a great deal about you as a potential partner. If a problem arises, do not simply walk away and ghost someone, instead communicate with your partner to find a compromise. If things do not work out, break up in person and go about your lives without leaving issues unresolved.

  • You Panic When Things Go Well

When you have faced one or several bad relationships it can be easy to panic when things start to go well in a new one. This is a time when most people start to self-sabotage. When things start going well, enjoy the ride. We never know how long things will last, but there is no point in ruining something before it gets started. Calm down and enjoy your happiness while it lasts.

  • Disrespecting Boundaries

Everyone needs boundaries to help them feel safe, heard, and liked. If you enter a relationship and start violating clearly defined boundaries, it is a form of self-sabotage. If your partner does not want you searching their medicine cabinet or picking up their phone, then do not do so. Be respectful of their boundaries and expect them to be respectful of yours.

No one can guarantee a relationship will last, but if you can remove your self-sabotaging behaviors then there is a better chance that you two can get to know each other on deeper levels before making a lasting decision.

Real Love is Something Else

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What is Love

One of the most asked questions in the world is, “What is Love?” If you are willing to ask 100 people that question, it is likely that you will receive 100 different answers because love is such a hard concept to define. In addition, there are so many types of love. We love our families. We love our friends. We even love our pets, but what if we want to know the meaning of real love?

Real love is unconditional love. Unconditional love is the type of love we all desire or at least hope for at some point in life. When you are able to find real love, there is no disappointment, anger, irritation, or even impatience. Put another way, real love is caring about the happiness of the other person without desiring anything in return.

Conditional Love

To fully understand unconditional, real love, you must understand conditional love. Conditional love is an imitation of love that is bound for disappointment, anger, impatience, and eventually hatred. When you have conditional love, it may feel like a typical love and relationship, but when you find unconditional love, you understand why previous forms of love felt like something was missing. Only unconditional love can heal your pain and make you feel whole.

Real Love and Happiness

Real love comes with real happiness because real love involves the other person or people caring about our happiness unconditionally. When you have real love, you are with people that are not disappointed or angry when you make a silly mistake or somehow inconvenience them for any reason. This does not mean that you will always behave perfectly with one another, but that resentments and anger are not allowed to build and decay under the surface. When you have real love, it is not about superficial pleasures that derive from sex, money, or even power. Real love is not even conditional on behaving in a way that the other partner desires or happiness earned from making people do as you desire.

Instead, real love is lasting and profound because it carries a sense of fulfillment and peace that satisfies the soul, seemingly enlarging it. This feeling remains even when circumstances are far from ideal and can survive and grow when struggles or hardship is calling.

Your goal, everyone’s goal, should be to obtain real love, if for no other reason than to share it with others. Real love shared, even with those closest to you, can be life changing. If the love is then shared within their groups, real love can be world-changing. Imagine people sharing real love with one another, forgiving differences, accepting mistakes, and living life to the fullest each moment. What do we have to lose by searching and hopefully creating unconditional love? Nothing but pain, discontent, and multiple other negatives. We are a single, real happiness and real love filled relationship away from this type of joy.

Read Your Own Mind: Tarot Spread

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6-card tarot spread

There are many different types of tarot spreads. Some spreads are only 3 cards while others are up to ten cards. The tarot card spread described here is a 6-card spread which is considered middle of the road for tarot readers. A 6-card spread is full of harmonic energy creating balance. It is also a great spread when the reader desires deeper insight, but not to go so deep that it covers past lives or intensely involved future projection. The focus of a self-reading is what will be described here.

To begin with, choose 6 cards placing two in the top row, two in the bottom and the final two to the right of the 4 cards in two rows. Each of these cards will reveal something about your life.

  • Card 1:

The first card is how you see yourself. There are times in which we try to convince ourselves we believe something, but the truth is very different. The first card will reveal how we see ourselves in life, regardless of what we try to portray to the world.

  • Card 2:

The second card is related to the first in that it is how others see us. We may think we portray one image or vibe to the world, but the world is sensing something else. This card will reveal the truth.

  • Card 3:

The third card reveals what does not represent you in life. Perhaps you feel anxious, but this is not shown to the world so it does not really represent who you are. The tarot reading will reveal your truth.

  • Card 4:

Since the 6-card spread is more focused on what is projected in your current life, the fourth card is representative of what is important to you right now.

  • Card 5:

Though card four shows what is important, card five is going to show what is not holding importance in your life in this moment. You may be trying to hold onto something that really is not important. If that is revealed, then let that thing go.

  • Card 6:

The final card is very revealing in that it shows the things you do not need in life, even though they are currently present. This card may be your signal to release something that is holding you back if you choose to listen.

A Read Your Own Mind tarot spread is unique and can be enlightening. Do not fear trying to use this spread just as you would many others. Keep in mind that you need to be calm, centered, and focused on the reading. If necessary, take time to meditate before doing your own reading. Most of all have fun. This is a simple spread that can be used a couple of times a month or as you go through transitions in life.

Solemness for Developing Psychic Ability

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Solemness

Being solemn is defined as being formal, dignified, and sincere. Solemness is about being serious about what you are focused on at the moment. One way to enhance your psychic ability is to practice solemness in ways that help you focus on all that is happening around you. I am here to explain some simple ways to help you connect to nature and become more self-aware so your psychic hearing can develop in a stronger manner.

Clairaudience is the psychic ability to hear things that others ignore or cannot hear. Some of the signs that you possess clairaudience are that you hear things others cannot from the astral realm. This can be words from your spirit guide, animal noises, music, or other tones like bells. You may also be more likely to speak to yourself or hear a “wise voice” that comes from within you but from a different place. The sounds you hear will not be scary or critical but helpful as guides. Children with clairaudience tend to have imaginary friends that serve as guides.

Those with clairaudience usually crave peace and quiet, much like an introvert, but more because they have a sensitive soul that needs time to relax and recuperate. Many clairaudients are musically sensitive or gifted and can easily play by ear or truly relate to music. However, some may regularly hear ringing or unusual noises that others do not sense.

Clairaudience may also be experienced as part of telepathy with humans, plants, and animals. This may be demonstrated by things like sensing where your dog will sit, and it actually does. You may also sense what someone close to you is thinking with regularity, almost as if you can hear their thoughts. These are forms of clairaudience.

Using Solemness

Solemness and quiet can be used to strengthen clairaudience. To build up this ability, you must learn to tune in to what most others ignore. The easiest way to do this is by getting out in nature. Find a quiet spot, preferably after the stars have come out, and lay on the grass. Take the time to feel the grass and ground beneath you. Find a comfortable spot and close your eyes. Tune into the sounds that are all around you. Can you hear the winds moving leaves? Can you hear crickets? Can you hear animals making noise or moving around? Try to focus on each individual sound, honing in on the source. Try to hear the softest sounds, like a moth flapping its wings or a twig snapping. As you do this, allow your mind to clear and try to focus on other soft sounds.

This is the way you can build clairaudience over time, by focusing on the smallest and softest sounds. Over time, you will be able to do this even in noisy environments. You are training yourself to tune in to the sounds most others ignore. As you connect further, your skills will improve.

Never Invest Time in the Unworthy

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Invest Time in the Unworthy

Life is full of uncertainties, but the one thing we can all be certain of is that we have a limited amount of time in this life. Whether you believe in Heaven, Hell, reincarnation, or something else, we all only have a given amount of time. The worst part is we never know how long that time limit is, but we can decide what we do with the moments we have. This means that we choose what to invest our time in is up to us for the most part. This does not mean we can skip work and ignore family or other obligations and expect life to move forward in a positive way, but it does mean we can choose which activities. to pour free time into in our lives.

Choosing Where to Invest Time

Since we have options when it comes to investing our free time, make sure to choose things that will bring positivity into your life. This may mean having to cut out the time you invest with ungrateful people or organizations, but it will be worth it. Ungrateful people are those that you have invested time, effort, and possibly money into, but they have been unwilling to seek real change. Those who seek your help but continue to do things that are harming themselves are no longer being helped but being enabled. When we continually invest in the ungrateful among us, we are creating a bigger problem. This is not to say that everyone must pull themselves up by their own bootstraps, but that some change on the person’s part should be evident.

Knowing when someone is no longer worth investing in is tough because it is probably someone you love. Still, for your own well-being, it is often necessary. Keep in mind that being grateful is about much more than someone saying thank you. It is about working toward bettering oneself. When someone is simply accepting help without making changes, even small ones, then they are ungrateful. You must learn to walk away from those who are ungrateful for your own safety and sanity.

Other Issues

Another side effect of continually investing in those who are ungrateful is a change in your energy levels. Those who are constantly taking your time and energy are leaving their negative energy behind. This can cause you to become misaligned within your chakras and to feel unbalanced mentally. You must decide whether you continually want to give of yourself to a single person or help others that can grow and eventually help others themselves. There are few things you can truly control in life, but whom you invest time in is one you truly control.

Another potential issue is not one that is seen if you continually invest in the ungrateful. If you waste your time on the ungrateful, others you could have potentially helped, and all those they could potentially help are left without your time. If you want to put the best into the world as possible, move on to someone else. Later on, the ungrateful person may change their ways and receive help, but until that time, you have to make the choice for yourself.

It is your time to invest; what are you going to do with it?

Lying to Yourself is the Most Dangerous

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Lying to Yourself is the Most Dangerous

Sadly, life is full of lies. Some of these are tiny white lies like “your dress looks great” or “she’s busy,” when these are untruths that are not hurting anyone but are still lies. There are also bigger lies that we tell one another that may cause harm but may not have been intended to at the moment. There is a very dangerous type of lie, though, the lies we tell ourselves.

The lies we tell ourselves are dangerous for a host of reasons. One relatively minor reason is that lying to ourselves can justify an unfair advantage. Let me explain. If we receive an unfair advantage, even if we did not ask for the advantage, viewing it as earned on merit is a lie. This type of lie will make it harder to discern and reward real merit and reward it when it is present.

Another dangerous truth that we often do not want to face is quite dangerous, that of a lethal habit like drug abuse or alcoholism, or even an abusive relationship. These lies are not just dangerous to the mind but dangerous to the body. If we are not willing to admit to the truth then the path could become physically dangerous or lethal.

Why is Lying to Ourselves Dangerous?

Telling ourselves lies is dangerous because, over time, we harden ourselves to our own desires. When we are willing to lie to ourselves, we become able to ignore our own wants and needs. When we continue to deny our own wants and needs, we can go down a path in life that is unsafe, unhealthy, and, most of all, unhappy. These types of lies lead us to a lack of self-awareness because the lies have cut us off from our awareness. Self-awareness is meant to refine us, so a lack of it will leave us stuck in whatever life we create without the ability to make real changes. If we end up stuck for too long, we can grow hostile toward ourselves and others.

What Can be Done?

It can be difficult to quit lying to ourselves because it is often so painful. The first real step is to admit you have been lying to yourself and then to take a full, realistic view of how your life is going and what lies you have been telling yourself. Once the lies are identified, do not focus on them but the opposite. Whatever we focus on will stay in control of our lives, so we must reword the lies into the truth we want. For example, I am not an alcoholic, and even when you are, can turn into I can work toward no longer letting alcohol control my life. The goal is to set realistic goals with achievable steps that can be attained over time. As progress is made, we must continue to be brutally honest with ourselves. If a failure occurs, be honest about why you failed and move forward.

Keep in mind the truth, even with ourselves, will always set you free.

Know What to Do and Where You Should Be

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Life is hard

Life is hard. Life is also constantly changing. We can be on top of the world one day and feel buried below the dirt the next. On top of that, we are rarely where we want to be in life. Some people believe this is just how life is and are miserable, but others have figured out the secret to how to get from where we are to where we should be.  That secret is shared here:

“I am learning every day to allow the space between where I want to be and where I am to inspire me and not terrify me.”

So, what does this secret mean in practical terms? We all have areas of life in which we are not where we want to be. Sometimes the gap is huge; sometimes, there is just one big obstacle in the way. Regardless, we see that gap or challenge and allow fear to enter our minds. The trick to being able to close that gap is to let the space or gap inspire instead of terrify you. It is human nature to give up when an obstacle is reached, but if we can change that mindset, great things can happen. There are a few straightforward steps you can take to help yourself along the way.

  • Understand the Goal

If you are not where you want to be, but do know what the goal is, then write it down. Just living life for the journey without trying to reach a goal will leave you wondering in circles. Start with the goal.

  • Create a Plan

You know your goal, and you know where you are at the moment. Take time to write out the major steps that are needed to get from point A to point B. These should be broad steps at least at first.

  • Break It Down

Look at each major step and break it down into smaller, measurable steps. These smaller steps will become smaller goals.

  • SMART Goals

As the bigger steps are broken down into smaller steps, create SMART goals. SMART goals are specific, Measurable, Achievable, Relevant, and Time-Bound.

  • Get Started

Start making progress on your goals. With each victory, big or small, find a way to celebrate and know you are moving closer to where you want to be.

Examples:

It can be tough to put this into action, so we will share an example. Let’s say you are currently overweight and want to get in better shape. Your plan may begin with the words “Overweight/Weak” and end with “In Shape/Healthy Weight.” Getting from one point to another will involve exercise, joining a gym, eating healthy, and practicing control. Next, you want to set SMART goals. One potential SMART goal for this journey may be “Lose two pounds in one week by exercising for 5 minutes a day and eating one healthy meal a day.” This is a realistic goal that is time-bound, relevant to the goal, measurable by the scale, and achievable.

There is no need to fear the space between where we are and where we want to be if we can break it down and track progress over time. Start tackling your space today.

Invest Wisely in Law of Attraction

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Invest Wisely

Every person has thousands, if not millions of thoughts each day. Some of those thoughts are purposeful, some are automatic. Automatic thoughts are those we do not recognize until attention is drawn to them. For example, you do not think about every breath you take unless someone brings it to your attention and then, you think about breathing until something interrupts that train of thought. Those are not the thoughts that are being addressed. Instead, we wish to talk about purposeful thoughts. These are the thoughts you choose to focus on during your day for whatever purpose.

As we focus on these purposeful thoughts, we must also bring in the Law of Attraction into play. The Law of Attraction states, in the simplest terms, that we attract what we radiate. To put this another way, what we put out into the world we will receive back or reap what we sew. No matter how you choose to word the Law of Attraction the meaning is the same. Keeping this in mind, you must understand that our thoughts are things we put out into the world as well.

“Each thought is an investment that pays immediate dividends, so invest wisely. You have the power to choose your thoughts and align them with love, peace, and harmony.”

Every purposeful thought we have can put positive or negative energy out into the world. If you choose to focus on the negative, then that same negativity will drive your actions and behaviors, and bring similar activity back into your life. Thankfully, the opposite is also true. If you choose to focus on the positive, your behaviors and actions will follow and bring positivity back into your life. You must learn to capture every thought and decide whether it is worth the time and return to invest in focusing on it. The choice is yours alone as no one can control your thoughts or focus.

When you choose to invest your thoughts wisely, our actions and behaviors will follow and what life returns to you will as well. This does not mean that all your thoughts, actions, or returns will always be positive or always be negative, humans cannot operate in such extremism without ever wavering. Life will never be completely perfect, nor all bad. However, we can attract the things we want or need most by investing our thoughts wisely.

What do you want most out of life long term? Are your thoughts investing in that area? Are you putting positivity into the world to bring positivity back? Start by answering these questions. If necessary, begin to invest your focus and thoughts toward the right things so the Law of Attraction can be helpful. The spirits in control of the Law of Attraction will gladly attune to your energies to higher frequencies if you ask and control your thoughts toward the positive. You choose how to invest. You are in control of your thoughts. Make sure you are investing for the good of self and others.

Understanding Your Soul Urge Number

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Soul Urge Number

There are many numbers and numbers play a big role in the lives of many people. This is what numerology is. The Soul Urge number is also called the Heart Desire number, and this is a number that can tell you what you are feeling deep inside of yourself. When you know the soul urge number of someone, you can know if they are someone that you would want to date.

Here is what the soul urge number means:

  • Number 1

This number can mean that someone is famous and that they are ambitious. They are someone that has a big ego and they are good leaders.

  • Number 2

This number can mean that there is peace in the home and that someone is meant for a specific job. This can be a person that is sensitive and someone that is very supportive.

  • Number 3

The Soul Urge number 3 means that you are a good team player. This is someone that likes to interact with other people like those of the opposite sex. These people express themselves good and make good writers.

  • Number 4

Number 4 is a person that rigidly looks at life. They are pragmatic to the things of life and how to deal with it.

  • Number 5

The number 5 is one that is able to take on many tasks at once. They love adventure and they are very excited about living.

  • Number 6

The Soul Urge number 6 is one that is loving and compassionate. They are artistic and they are people that love to be creative and love nature.

  • Number 7

Soul Urge number 7’s are people that have a lot of knowledge. They love to learn new things and they are able to communicate well. They are able to share their feelings and even though they have mood swings they are strong.

  • Number 8

Those with the number 8 as their Soul Urge number are people that make a lot of money. They also love to have stability and power, but they aren’t very good at talking to others.

  • Number 9

People that have the number 9 as their Soul Urge number are people that are stubborn, and they are good leaders. They are often aggressive people.

Get Them to Call Without Telling Them

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Get Them to Call Without Telling Them

We all desire connection in life, but sometimes life gets so busy that we do not even hear from friends. Perhaps you do not want to call and be a bother to someone but would love to hear from them. Using your natural psychic abilities is one way to get in contact with those with whom you may have lost touch. The process is simple, but it may take some practice.

Getting Started

The key is to start building up your psychic abilities using telepathy to ask a friend to call. Start with friends you are close to in order to build up these abilities before trying for those you have not spoken to for longer periods of time. To get started, think about your close friend by picturing them in your mind. If you have trouble doing this, hold and stare at a photo of the person. Imagine this person calling you within 24 hours. Focus on the person calling you within that time frame and send the intention out into the universe. Write down the time that you set and put this intention into the world, and then wait to see if that person calls. If not, try again to connect psychically with the same person. Practice makes perfect in this form of psychic development.

Once you are regularly connecting with those close to you, then try to telepathically connect to those you have not heard from for several weeks or even years. Make sure that you make no other contact with the person so you are strengthening your psychic abilities. Record when you send out the intention and whether or not the person calls. If the person does call, do not be surprised if they mention feeling like a need to call suddenly came over them. Enjoy a conversation with an old friend, and know that you can connect telepathically at any time.

Sometimes we all need to reach out but cannot make the call. Reaching out telepathically can be a good first step and great practice for your psychic powers. The true test is keeping track of the intentions you send out to the universe and following up to see if it is working. You may not be successful on your first few attempts, but keep trying. Also, know that some people may not be open to receiving your message, so the call may never come. This is why it is important to practice on those close to you at first to see if the messages are being sent.

Conclusion

Give it a try today by choosing a person to connect with and setting your intention. If the call comes, then know you are on the right track and mention that you were just thinking about the caller to gauge their reaction. Keep trying to connect with those you desire no matter where they are in the world.