You Have a Choice to Change Your Life

Everything we do in life is a choice, and I think most of us realize that. But what most people don’t seem to realize is that everything we don’t do in life is also a choice. So every day, we choose to do some things and not to do other things.

Sometimes choosing not to do something is the wisest choice. However, there is a huge difference between choosing not to do something and choosing to do nothing.

Most people would like to change their life in one way or another. How about you? Are there areas of your life that you would like to change?

You Have a Choice

But I am here to tell you that what seems to be impossible is indeed possible. First and foremost, we have a choice. This choice is where it all begins to change; it’s where we choose to come out from beneath the dark cloud under which we reside and step out into the sun. It is fear that keeps us in our pain, locking us into our retreat from life. Having been stuck in this kind of pain for many years myself, I finally came to understand that happiness is a choice. And it was a choice I had to make before my life could change for the better.

Seek Guidance from Loved Ones

Once the choice is made to make a change, it is important for us to decide what things we’d like to change. The difficult part lies in making daily choices and decisions that would affect or create the change that is desired. Seeking guidance from our loved ones through this process can be a valuable tool. Oftentimes, our loved ones see things from the outside that we might not be able to see because we are stuck on the inside.

Seek Spiritual Guidance

Additionally, seeking spiritual guidance when we desire to change can be invaluable. We walk through life creating and continuing patterns that can cause some of the negative things we’ve experienced. One of the most valuable tools we can use is reaching out for direction on how to break those patterns and overcome the obstacles we face to keep us stuck. Sometimes, it’s as simple as being pointed in the right direction. Finding someone that we connect with when reaching out for this guidance is important, as it’s both the information, as well as the delivery of the information that can prompt the change that is necessary. As a psychic, I come from an understanding and empathic place, but not everyone responds well to that approach. The most important thing is to find someone you can trust to help guide you through some of the changes.

Surround Yourself with Good Examples

And finally, surround yourself with people who have implemented the kind of change you want to see in your own life. This is probably one of the healthiest things we can do because we learn so well by watching others. We all have people in our lives who we’ve admired and others who leave much to be desired. So, start spending more time with the people in your life who are happy. They will inspire you to follow this path yourself and teach you how it can be accomplished.

So don’t let another day pass when you’re still stuck in your pain. Today can be the day that everything changes. The choice is yours.

4 Ways of Attaining a Conscious Relationship

One of life’s great challenges is creating a healthy relationship. Getting on someone’s wavelength can be a grueling, near-impossible task that does not come with guidance or instructions. Most of the time, though, it is worth evaluating your own decisions; selfishness, in particular, can quickly drive an otherwise loving relationship to ruin.

As such, there is a lot to be gained by working towards making your relationship a ‘conscious’ one. This entails ensuring that both yourself and your partner are working towards a state of growth; that requires focusing on both individual growth and unified growth as a couple.

What kind of growth, exactly? The kind that makes the world brighter. Unfortunately, most people throughout history initiate relationships for their own personal goals. However, if you are not focused on working together to achieve this unified growth, your relationship is more likely to leave you dissatisfied.

The ‘intention of growth,’ as it is called, can provide you with mutual satisfaction. Your relationship can become more than a mission for self-gratification, which is better for all involved. Here are four tips for achieving ‘next-level’ love in your progression to conscious love.

First things first: focus on growth instead of the outcome of the relationship.

By all means, you can daydream about how your relationship will turn out. Your first port of call, however, should be focusing on growth. Stasis is the greatest enemy of progression, so your level of satisfaction will automatically stop if you cease to grow spiritually, emotionally, mentally, and physically.

Furthermore, to ignore your own growth in favor of your partner’s is to cage yourself in their growth. You are unable to engender your own growth if you are simply not focused on it. Once again, this corrupts the balance of your relationship and causes it to become unsatisfying.

Indeed, growth can be terrifying; you may consider the risk of outgrowing one another, which would be ‘too much growth.’ Alas, collective growth strengthens the relationship by keeping it truly alive, and the risk of drifting apart becomes minuscule in comparison with non-conscious relationships.

Respect Your Triggers

Everyone brings some form of negativity to a relationship, whether it’s the hurt that lingers from a previous relationship or emotional wounds that have no correspondence to romance in general. Rejection and abandonment are two common feelings one can expect to experience in a new relationship—especially if you expect to emphasize growth.

Another misconception is the idea that negative emotions are detrimental to your relationship. However, these are your negative emotions, not your partner’s, caused by dysfunctional patterning. Your own beliefs are to blame for your pessimism.

Facing your faulty belief systems is essential to conscious growth, so the conscious couple should prioritize this area despite its difficulty. Take responsibility for your dysfunctional patterning, and you will be on track to attaining a much stronger relationship.

Disregard All Manner of Judgment

Conscious relationships require partners to feel free to feel whatever is natural to them without fear of judgment from their partner. Of course, this can only come after the previous point about taking responsibility for one’s actions. Truly naked desire can be dangerous for any relationship, but it can be the most freeing thing imaginable when it is accepted.

Finding the courage to be completely honest with your partner is one thing, but the importance of allowing them to be brutally honest with you often goes unmentioned. Certain things may be difficult to hear, but working past these negative reactions is essential for ensuring your relationship is the strongest it can possibly be.

Remember: the reason you alter your self-image around other people is to feel more comfortable in yourself. That, however, only serves to limit your personal growth all the more; by extension, it limits your collective growth with your partner. Radical honesty (and its acceptance) is essential to strengthening your bond as a couple.

Love is a Practice, not a State of Being

To love is to enter a state of vulnerability. It’s a practice that includes acceptance and forgiveness. Most people make the mistake of treating love as a destination; people become unsatisfied when the feeling of ‘love’ is absent and treat their relationship like something has gone horribly wrong.

The truth is that love appears in the nuances of a relationship. This exploration forces you to question whether your approach to your partner is actually a form of practicing love. Furthermore, every act of practicing love is different, allowing your relationship to blossom in new, interesting, and ultimately satisfying ways.

To be a conscious couple is to rely on that growth and to trust love to appear in strange, beautiful ways.

How to Use Spiritual Unity to Make Your Relationship Last

In the beginning, falling in love is magical and new. It is a refreshing emotion as you move toward your love. Everything in the world seems to fall away as you have found your soulmate.

But, as time goes by, this rush of love seems to disappear, and you may begin to wonder if you just imagined the rush of emotion and love. After you fall in love and move back to the day-to-day minutiae of your regular life, the bloom of freshness will fall away.

You should nourish your relationship and soul to keep this from happening and maintain your love. This involves work.

There are a few things you can do to help keep the romance and unity in your life:

You can turn your fights into solutions. It is a myth that all lovers have a blissful existence. Fighting doesn’t mean your relationship is bad or toxic. Fights don’t have to be obstacles. Instead, work on the problem as a team and, as a team, finds the solution. This will nurture your relationship by giving you a new level of honesty and clarity.
Spend your time together nourishing your souls.In our busy lives, finding time to spend together is hard. You can maximize the benefits of your unity by growing together spiritually. For example, you can meditate together or enjoy nature by taking a long walk. You can also explore mutual interests by watching a documentary or art film together. This effort will help you grow together, mind and soul. It is important that you spend your time together constructively.
Know each other’s energy.As you and your partner grow together, you begin to know each other on a deeper level. You are functioning well as a team, and you respect each other’s intellectual growth. The next step is to become intimate with your partner’s energy field. Simply put, your personal energy is the combination of all of your levels of thought in conjunction with every other thing that makes you, you. You can get in tune with your partner’s energy by just being next to them. Try lying down with them quietly, just absorbing his energy. Share the space by being together without doing anything.

Actively tuning into each other physically, spiritually, and intellectually will keep your romance fresh and alive and help you grow as human beings.

5 Ways to Create a Positive Work Environment

The environment you work in can drastically affect your mood and motivation. So, it could be argued that the state of your working environment is even more important than your job responsibilities and duties. Working in a place with a negative atmosphere can make employees unhappy, leading to decreased productivity and a lack of motivation.

Here are 5 ways to create a more positive working environment:

Change it up

Some offices are simply drab, with boring colors and furniture. But, even if your office is painted with bright colors and comfortably furnished, looking at the same things every day can get depressing. Liven up your workspace with your favorite pictures, motivational quotes, or even some colorful flowers. Brightening the space and adding some personal touches will make it more enjoyable and comfortable to work in. If you can move things around and use some feng shui techniques, that will also change the room’s energy.

Clean it up

A cluttered environment can lead to disorganized thoughts. It also creates a negative atmosphere. So, if your desk is messy and unorganized, clean it up and organize it. You’ll be surprised how quickly some simple cleaning and organization can alter the atmosphere and your mood.

Team-building exercises

Team-building exercises always boost morale and put employees in a good mood. They build trust and a sense of camaraderie between co-workers. They also allow employees to talk to people they seldom interact with at work. Some employees don’t get to socialize with people they work with while they’re on the clock, and these exercises fulfill their social needs. The attitude of employees after team-building exercises is more positive, which makes the working environment more positive.

Good communication

A lack of communication can not only be frustrating, but it can also cause catastrophic misunderstandings. In an office environment, it should be commonplace to communicate frequently with supervisors to get updates, tips, and other important information. There are many ways to do this, from regular team meetings to a company email server or instant messaging system. But no matter which method your company chooses, it’s still important to use face-to-face communication often. Some things just aren’t adequately conveyed through text.

Motivate and inspire

Many office workers feel as though their efforts and achievements go largely unacknowledged. This is dangerous because if they feel it doesn’t matter how well they do, they won’t strive to do a good job. There are lots of ways to motivate and inspire your employees, however. You can take time to tell your employees that they’re doing a good job and that they’re appreciated; you could say it in a newsletter, awards can be given out, contests can be held with prizes for top performers or teams, etc. But it’s important that it gets done because it will boost morale and create positive energy in the office when your employees feel happy and appreciated.

Of course, these are only some ways to create a more positive working environment. It’s very likely that after you do some of the things mentioned on this list, you’ll be inspired to do something else to change the energy of your working environment, as well. And once you’ve started working to change the atmosphere to a more positive one, you’ll notice how much happier and less stressed the employees seem.

The Power of Human Touch

As much as people try to recreate the power of a good massage with high-tech devices, anyone can tell you that no matter how high-end a product is, it’s not even close to the real thing. It’s something more than the skin on skin. There is comfort in the power of the human touch. It is not unique. Cultures all over the world have used the mysterious magic of human touch. Touch can heal and soothe. Even today, modern science acknowledges the benefits.

When we feel lost and alone, the simple touch of another person can ground us and help us, whether the pain is from mental or physical sources.

There are five main benefits of touch that you may not know:

Comfort and Reassurance

As children and babies, we find comfort in a hug or reaching out to a loved one. This need doesn’t fade when we get older. Everyone appreciates and wants human contact. The touch of another can help us relax, grow as we are meant to, and reach our full potential.

Stress release and relaxation

Human contact not only relieves stress, but it is also relaxing. This is easy to see when you think of how effective a massage is. When someone you love is rubbing your shoulders or giving you a massage, it can definitely work wonders as far as feeling stress and tension lift away.

Confidence boosting

Think about the last time you got a pat on the back for doing a good job or a hug from someone. Remember the confidence and pride you felt? These are just additional benefits of human touch. Likewise, when a child feels the need for comfort, they reach out to take a hand.

Demonstration of Love

Some have problems saying how they feel. However, they feel perfectly comfortable giving a hug or gentle caress to show how they feel. Touch is a wonderful way to show love.

Healing

Touch heals. It’s not just a feeling. Immune cells in the body increase with touch. This helps physical and mental problems heal. Touch can also change moods and alter behavior.

Everyone needs touch. It’s not just the healing; it’s the happiness. So when you are feeling ill and low, just hug someone.

All the Single Men

It is not uncommon these days for men to stay single. It is said that some men choose to stay single so they can do whatever they want and that marriage only restricts their freedom.

This eventuality leads to disappointment when you meet a man who piques your interest, only to find that not only does he not want to commit now, he may never commit. Is their independence so important that they would risk being alone forever?

It is not news that you have to compromise to survive and thrive in a relationship. When you start a relationship, many men do not want to part with worldly possessions, from a ratty t-shirt from high school or their top-of-the-line gaming system. They do not want to run the risk of a new lady in their lives taking over and literally cleaning the house. Or, even worse, making them do it.

Here are a few tips to avoid fights or the possibility of a breakup:

Step 1

Don’t try to control him unless you want to find yourself on the fast track to singlehood.

Many men like to stay single so that they can date as many people as they want. Even if he truly cares about you, he may not be ready for a relationship. Just because you are ready for a commitment doesn’t mean he is. If he is not ready, don’t force him. This is a good way to lose him altogether.

Just because his priorities are different doesn’t mean your time with him is wasted. Enjoy your time together, and take it slow.

Step 2

Give him some time and space. You don’t want to push him away.

Another reason he may want to be single because they are afraid of the expense involved with a committed relationship. The expense associated with marriage goes far past the cost of a ring and ceremony. A spouse means twice the expenses. They may feel that you, as their lifelong partner, expect them to foot the bill for everything, not just insurance and joint costs, but being the sole support of both of you. A good way to avoid this is to be independent and let him know you are self-sufficient. Make him understand that you want him as part of your life, not the reason.

Step 3

Be friends with him.

Help him feel comfortable with you. Spend quality time doing small things, such as letting him know that you enjoy sitting at home with him as much as you enjoy going out with him.

You may not change his mind, but you can have fun while going out. If you do change his mind, then the relationship was meant to be long-term. Continue to show your independence and enjoy time together and separate activities.

Is it Lust or Love?

Sometimes it is hard to know if you are actually in love or just deeply minded in physical attraction. Initially, it is hard to tell, but a sign is understanding that true love happens over time and can develop from an immediate attraction.

What is Lust?

Lust stems from physical attraction. It is said to be based on pheromones, chemicals within us that generate a response. In animals, it leads to reproduction; in humans, it manifests in lust.

Lust is an attraction to another person with a sexual intent, though not with the connection that comes from raising a family. It can last from several hours to several minutes. It is important to realize that one can receive physical release without being emotionally attached to someone. It can also be so intense that you can confuse it with love.

What is Love?

Love is much deeper than a physical connection. This bond between two people comes from the investment of respect, support, and emotional fulfillment.

When you are in a love relationship, it is a lasting bond that only grows as time passes.

How do we find true love?

While it is easy to find lust or sex, it is difficult to find love. We all seem to want to find the one person who completes us deeply. This isn’t easy when we consider how many people there are in the world. Some consult the zodiac to help them find the connection from their zodiac sign.

While it may be fun to play with those with whom you share a physical attraction, at some point, the fun will end when you can’t make an emotional or spiritual connection. This is a clear sign that you won’t be able to have a long-term relationship with them.

If you grow tired of looking in the wrong direction for the right partner, you can consider consulting a psychic or astrologer to help guide you. You don’t have to conduct this search alone. Some psychics specialize in guiding folks toward true love.

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Things You Should Know Before Dating The Divorced

Dating someone who’s divorced is very common. There are things you can do for relationship success.

This is especially true when you’re talking about remarriage. In this day and age, when just under half of first marriages fail, there is a good chance you may become involved with someone who has divorced. The older you are, the more likely this is to happen.

With second marriages failing at an even higher rate
then the first ones; there are a few things you should be aware of as you negotiate this relationship.

With that in mind, here are a few things to consider if your potential paramour has “been there” before. First, check out these tips for dating the divorced!

How Long Have They Been Divorced?

If someone has been single for several years, they’re going to be in a different place than if their divorce was finalized last week… or last month… or not at all because they’ve only just separated from their spouse. Someone who hasn’t found his or her new normal may inadvertently drag you through holdover issues from their marriage, and that’s not fair to anyone. Also, if you’re constantly being compared to the ex, it means this person is probably not ready for a meaningful relationship with you even though they’re divorced. That’s fine if you just want to have fun, but not if you’re looking for your lifetime partner. On that note, you’ll need to know the following:

What Do They Really Want?

We all want to find love—eventually. The question is, does your date want to settle down, or do they need to have a little fun first now that they’re divorced? Different people in certain situations experience different reactions. Some want to find “the one” right away (not always a wise choice), and others are gun-shy (which is understandable but can be prohibitive). Whatever the case, it’s fair to ask, and you need to know before you put your heart on the line. You also may need to accept that this person doesn’t quite know what he or she wants yet. Life after divorce is a rebuilding process. And before you can contemplate whether or not you want to build on the same site, you’ll need to consider the following:

What’s the Deal With Their Ex?

Everyone has baggage. But how extensive is this divorced person’s baggage? Is your potential partner over their ex? Do they have children together? If so, you’ll need to accept that his or her ex-spouse is part of the package. And in a bigger sense, so are the kids (which also means it’s your potential partner’s responsibility to co-parent them). If no little ones are involved, your potential partner’s ex-spouse might not be around for the long haul; however, other situations (say they shared a pet or have intertwined business interests) mean he or she isn’t totally gone either. Know what you’re dealing with so you can decide if you’re okay with everything. If you’re the jealous type, this could drive you crazy!

What Have They Learned?

Finally, it’s worth asking (or at least taking note) of your partner’s take on their divorce. It’s a painful process—whether they were the ones who wanted it or had it thrust upon them, and the upheaval is profound. However, the growth should be as well. In other words, if someone doesn’t see his or her own role in their marriage’s crumbling (which you needn’t know all about in detail) or have things they’d have done differently along the way, they might not have learned the lessons they’d need to succeed in love the next time around—with you.

How to Tell the Painful Truth?

What do you desire to achieve by speaking the truth? This is a question you should ask yourself before coming out clean. Are you on a mission to make somebody feel bad or bring the best out of your relationship? It is important to note that a cozy relationship is built through trust and deceit. Regardless of how we might feel, that is the painful truth. What therefore is the ideal approach you should take if you want to come out clean?

Ways of telling a painful truth to someone:

Put their feelings into consideration

It is imperative to consider how another individual will respond to your sentiments regardless of your feelings. Always put yourself in their position since their response will depend on how you speak to them. Considering their proneness before you uncover a fact may reduce their troubles.

Evaluate your utterances

Always be kind with your utterances. Your being sincere doesn’t mean you unpleasantly state something. However, this doesn’t mean you shy away from telling the truth just as it is. What you need to do is to be selective with your utterances. “I feel” sentiments have more impact than your articulations, so always include them in your proclamations. Don’t put blames on individuals lest they dissent against you for that. Maya Angelou once said, “People will forget what you said. People will forget what you did. But people will never forget how you made them feel.”

Think about your timing

You might feel the need to exclaim something immediately; however, a startling truth should not be shared during contention. You should not catalyze a contention; rather, wait for that moment when everyone will have cooled down to say whatever you feel like saying. When you speak the truth, your utterances will impact you a lot. There is always control in knowing what to utter and when to utter them.

How Unresolved Guilt Affects You

We all feel guilt. It is the usual reaction when we have a loss or other trauma, particularly when we feel that someone has been physically or spiritually victimized. Life events can take a toll on us on many levels. The resulting guilt can diminish the way we feel about ourselves, particularly when our resources are challenged. In addition, we feel guilt when we don’t act in the way that we expect ourselves to. This can lead us into a spiral of second-guessing ourselves and assigning blame when we don’t react properly. Again, this self-assigned guilt can take a toll.

Guilt leads to cloudy thoughts

When our brains feel foggy, it leads to distracted thoughts, an inability to learn new things, and reduced concentration. If you have difficulty remembering key bits of concentration, it could be caused by guilt.

Weight gain can be linked to guilt

Guilt causes stress, and when you are stressed, you want comfort food. Unfortunately, these foods aren’t always good for you; the calories stick around permanently, even if they make you feel good temporarily. This leads to more guilt and stress, and the cycle continues. If you get into the habit of making good choices when it comes to nutrition, you will feel less comforted by doughnuts and the like.

Guilt can hold you back from your life’s enjoyment

If you feel guilty, relaxing and enjoying your life is impossible. Guilt can tell you that you do not deserve the good things that come your way. If you can’t respond happily to life’s joys like a wedding or baptism, it could be that your guilt is stopping you.

Guilt causes you to punish yourself

Guilt can make you feel like you deserve pain and suffering. It may be that you feel like you can achieve solace from penance, that it can make you better. It is only natural since we many cultures, feel pain helps purify the soul and spirit. This type of self-punishment can manifest as negative self-talk and even go so far as self-mutilation. If you have gone this far, seek medical attention.

There are better ways to survive guilt

It sounds simple, resolve your guilt to feel better. If you need to apologize, do it! If you absolutely can’t, do kind things for other people. Ask the universe for forgiveness. If the person you have wronged has passed on, seeking help from a psychic medium can help. Your unresolved guilt can punish others like your immediate family and friends. When you can’t be your best self, others suffer.

Realize that everyone is only human and that you shouldn’t have to pay for your mistakes for the rest of your life. Make amends and move on.

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