You’ve been looking for love, but it seems like forever, and you’re not finding it yet… The great news is, you can attract it — and doing so is easier than you think! At least, that’s what practitioners of the ancient Chinese art of Feng Shui say. In fact, singles looking for love may be the perfect people to try this long-used method of creating abundance in life, specifically in love!

Take these 3 tips (both practical and theoretical) for drawing in the partner you’ve been seeking.

• Make room for love

The first thing you want to do to make room for love is quite literally to make room for a lover! This means your bed should never be flush up against a wall. Instead, there should be room for two people to climb in on either side; ideally, side tables should be on both the left and right sides of your bed. This tells the universe that you’re prepared to accommodate a mate and, in turn, open yourself up to finding one.

While you’re at it, consider how this ideal can be applied more figuratively. Are you a closed-off person? Do you tend to shy away from speaking with new people at social events? Are you so focused on not appearing desperate that you come off as aloof? One of the most important things you can do metaphysically if you want to find love is to be open to it. You have to try your best to be welcoming rather than apprehensive. And even if you are frightened (after all, change is not easy for any of us, and having someone in your life would certainly add a new element into the mix), you must be brave. You have to believe that the right person will come along and accept the truth that you’re going to have to kiss some frogs on the way to your prince. Otherwise, how would you recognize him?!

• The power of two

Feng Shui experts say one of the best ways a singleton can promote finding love is to decorate with the magical number two in mind. What does this mean?

Well, if you want to be stringent in your Feng Shui following, you should place two swans or two cranes (any animals that mate for life) in the far right corner of your bedroom. But if two animal figures wouldn’t exactly go with your décor, consider instead two red candles in that same space. On that same note, try to keep most decorative flourishes in pairs, particularly in the bedroom and kitchen. Symbolically, that’s the heart and soul of a home — relationships (and people) are “fed” there.

In a less practical (but equally vital) way, start thinking of yourself as part of a pair. If you can’t imagine yourself as anything but single, it’s going to be harder for you to find love. It may be a stretch (particularly if you’ve been single for a while), but try to imagine what it would feel like to be in a relationship — or even better, what you want to feel like in your ideal pairing. As you start to envision yourself not just as loved but as loving, you will begin to feel as you imagine yourself feeling. This energy shift may be just the thing you need to attract the partner of your dreams!

• It’s in the eye of the beholder

Love depends upon your ability to see yourself in it (see the last tip)! This isn’t just some New Age gobbley-gook; it’s true. Most people who date easily do so because they expect to have a partner. While they may occasionally doubt themselves, on the whole, they believe they are worthy of love and can — and will — wind up happy with someone. On the other hand, those who struggle the most allow themselves to live in fear of never finding someone. They settle for the easy rather than the right way and often either cling to the wrong mate despite knowing they’re not well-matched or steer clear of potential partners altogether. Feng Shui practitioners believe that we must envision ourselves in the relationship we desire, with a mate we desire, in order to see that relationship come to fruition.

So what can you do, practically speaking, to express your newfound vision of love? First, buy yourself a gift that symbolizes your ideal (not idealized) relationship and place it somewhere prominent in your home. That way, you can look at it often and imagine yourself where you want to be. Imagination, as we know, is the first step to creation, and by envisioning yourself as part of a pair, you’re on your way to finding that other half!

Dating is hard. It’s not just hard; it’s nerve-wracking. You never know when you go on a date if it will work or won’t or if you are going to invest time, make-up, and hair products only to get your heart broken.

If only there were a way to figure out if someone is going to break your heart.

It turns out there are a few signs to look for to determine whether or not your heart will survive.

Some things to be aware of include meeting the family, how he treats you, and if he is still in contact with his ex.

A terrific indicator is if he tells you straight out that he is not looking for a relationship. This is a very clear sign.  Suppose he tells you that he is not looking for anything serious.  Sometimes a man will say this to see if you are truly interested. It’s a big trap to fall into, so be wary.

• He can’t decide one way or the other.   So don’t look for excuses if he waffles between being sweet and available and being aloof and cold. His interests clearly lie elsewhere, and it is not with you.
• He avoids your family.  If he doesn’t want to join you on any family outings, it means that he is trying to remain removed so that he doesn’t have to introduce you to his family.  This doesn’t mean that he has a big secret to hide just because he doesn’t want to go to your Aunt Edna’s funeral. If he continually avoids family affairs, that’s a big warning sign
• A rose by any other name would smell as sweet. This is all well and good for Shakespeare, but if he won’t refer to you as his girlfriend or date, he is distancing himself from you.
• No phone calls, please. If he doesn’t answer his phone when you are around, or even if it’s not in plain sight is not always a bad thing. He may have excellent manners and is trying to focus on you.  However, if he is edgy every time his phone rings and he sneaks away to look at a text or answer a call, he could be juggling a few relationships and is not ready to settle for one.
• He’s a dreamer: He always talks about things he is going to do. It could be planning for the two of you in the future or plans he has of whisking you away on vacation, or even the home he hopes the two of you will share once he gets a big promotion. If he makes big plans but doesn’t do anything to make them happen.  He is not deeply rooted in the realities of nurturing a relationship
• He keeps in contact with his exes.  He may be the nicest guy in the world who is genuinely interested in maintaining friendships with everyone in his life, or he could just not be over the relationship he had with his ex or exes. He may be comparing you to them or may not be ready to embark on something new. He can only commit to you when he lets them go.
• He turns to you for advice over and over and over

If he constantly complains and comes to you with a litany of events in which he was wronged, be warned. He may never see you as anything but a friend to whom he can vent.  It’s nice to be needed, but not if you need more than that.

Some people would judge you that you’re being overly dramatic when someone leaves you, but they don’t have any idea that being dumped is one of the worst feelings on earth. The worst part is knowing that while your ex is off living a fabulous life, you can’t stop thinking about them.

Here are our top three ways to get your ex out of your head and get sweet revenge:

• Let go
  

Letting go of love is the hardest part of being dumped. While your ex has been letting go of you in preparation for the breakup, you’re still as attached as ever. So when they suddenly pull the rug out of from under you, you’re not necessarily ready to let go of your life together. In the beginning, it’s natural to cling to whatever souvenirs you have left of your relationship. You may find yourself eating at their favorite restaurant, sleeping in their old t-shirt, or re-watching the movie you saw on your first date together. You do these things because you want to feel close to the person you miss so much.

But whether you want to or not, eventually, you have to put distance where there was once closeness. Bit by bit, you must begin to let go of the tiny pieces of your relationship. As you let go of your life with your ex, embrace the new life in front of you: the amazing life that is yours and yours alone.

• Love again
  

Your first impulse after a breakup may be to move on into someone else’s arms. Not only will it ease your loneliness, you’re sure it will make you feel wanted again after the sting of rejection. And most of all, the idea of you and another love will infuriate your ex with jealousy.

But as exciting as vengeance between the sheets may seem, having a one-night stand might not end up hurting anyone but you. Instead, the morning after, you could end up feeling even more lonely and insecure than before the tryst.

While rebounding with a perfect stranger sounds like a delicious way to get even, real revenge is moving on in a meaningful way. First, open your heart to all kinds of people – not just potential lovers. Be kind to friends and family, reach out to neighbors in need, and learn to love yourself in a more profound way. Then, once you’ve brought more universal love into your life, you can move on and begin to look for the right partner to share romantic love with.

• Live well
  

Some people say that the best revenge is living well. They’re right. The only way to get your ex out of your life is to fill your life with so many other wonderful things that there’s no room for them anymore!

Being dumped often leaves you feeling helpless and out of control. But you can reclaim the power over your destiny by channeling your pain and anger into positive energy. Use this time as an opportunity to grow, change, and become the best version of yourself you can possibly be.

Spend time with friends you’re usually too busy for. Study something you’ve always wanted to learn about. Take up a new hobby. Get into shape. Go on vacation.

Not only will your new life distract you from the pain of your breakup, but it will also leave you happier and healthier than you were with your ex. And really, what’s sweeter revenge than that?

As we all know, friendships pass through phases. It’s just a part of the human condition.  Every relationship has up and downs.  However, sometimes a friendship can be challenged to the point that it seems there will be no return. It could be a huge fight or an even huger disagreement; it could be the thing that destroys your friendship forever.

If you want to salvage your friendship, there will be some intense work that has to be done. It may be necessary to make a clean break of it and move forward with the plan to make it past the challenges and rescue your friendship.

Choose to make necessary repairs

Before you go through all of the heavy lifting, both of you have to make the choice that you want to stay friends. Really think about it. Are you fully committed to making this work?  If so, then you can start to do all of the repairs.

• Discuss the conflict

Have a serious conversation and get everything out in the open. Discuss every single thing you feel and think about the conflict.  Don’t leave anything out unless it’s truly hurtful.  Then, make sure everything is said.  You have to get it all out before you move on.

• Let the past pass

Once all the talking has been done, commit to never mentioning it again. It’s all out in the open, so you no longer have to bring it up.  Put it behind you and move on.  You can move on without reliving the past hurt when you agree to this. If you have really forgiven each other, there is no reason to bring it up again.

• Gently move back into the friendship

It is only natural that you won’t feel as close to your friend as you once were.  Don’t be disappointed if you can’t just move seamlessly back to where you once were.   If you used to be in constant contact before the disagreement, ease back in by casually meeting once a week or so.  Keep in touch via text or email instead of calling. This will help slowly rebuild the relationship.  It will take time, but you will eventually be back to the closeness you once shared.

If you are uncertain about areas of your relationship with friends or other loved ones, you can always consult a love psychic to guide you through the repairs of your friendship.

Everyone says that summer is when the time is ripe to fall in love. It may be because people go on trips and vacations, and an air of frivolity and casualness opens us up to new romance.  But are you truly ready for a new relationship? How do you truly know?

• The first step is Forgiveness

If you hold hostility and grudges in your heart, you are getting in your own way. As desperately as you want to hold on to this, it is not in your best interest.  Once you have started working through the anger and blame, you can purge yourself of this negative energy. And once this is gone, you can focus on building a new relationship without bringing old feelings into your new romance.

• Love yourself

Many people do not love themselves and create an aura of doubt and negativity around themselves.  This can keep a new romance at bay.  Much of this negativity comes from a lack of acceptance of their physical appearance. This feeling of not being good enough can lead to people settling for less-than-perfect romances.  This will eventually lead to mistrust.  If you don’t trust someone, you will draw in people who are actually untrustworthy. If you really want to bring a long-term relationship to you, you have to love yourself.  Think about how often you tell yourself you are not good enough. When you think this, it sticks in your brain and plays over and over again.  Once you become aware of your false beliefs, you can work with a therapist to help you transition into a state of self-love.  You can start by nourishing your inner child. If you actually picture a child, you won’t easily be able to insult it by what you have been telling your adult self.  This will remind you that you love this child and want them to feel cherished.

• Don’t be afraid

Be fearless as you go about your life journey. Focus on what you want to do, and don’t go into every situation as if you are seeking your one true love.  It has been said that you will find love if you stop looking for love. Don’t let your fear manifest as desperation.  This is a negative energy that is not only unhelpful but will also leave you vulnerable to the wrong kind of relationship. Instead, focus on being happy with yourself.  Accept yourself and your life as it is, and don’t judge yourself.  This acceptance will free your spirit, and this may lead to the love of your life.

Good Karma or Bad Karma

There are those who don’t particularly want or need a relationship. This may be directly caused by what their soul tells them.  Their mission on this plane of existence is to work on themselves and their personal journey. Most of these souls are aware of what they want. If you think you have this kind of soul, you can consult a psychic or astrologer to understand what you want and need fully.

Even though the world around you may be springing into summer with the thought of new love and romance, only you know when you are ready. There is no timeline that you must adhere to.