Sex is one of the ways that you can be intimate with your partner but there are other forms of intimacy as well. This can be the emotional bond or connection that you have with someone outside of sex.
Having sex is more than intimacy and even though there can be a problem with this, people can have healthy sex and still have problems with intimacy. This can happen because having an emotional connection is what it takes to have the feel-good hormone, oxytocin. When couples have this together, it can make there be more trust between each other.
Intimacy is something that adds trust and vulnerability to a relationship, and it allows you to be honest with each other without being afraid of being judged.
If you are someone that isn’t comfortable with intimacy or expressing your emotions, it can be weird to be around your partner sometimes. There are some people that will get on their cell phones instead of having an emotional connection with their partner because this seems easier, and this is called technoference.
People are so attached to their phones now that they have a hard time giving their attention to people right in front of them. This causes there to be a lack of social interaction and it can be hard to show the desire that you have with your partner when you are always distracted by the phone.
This is what makes it hard for many couples to have intimacy and to make intimacy stronger. Here is how you can make it work:
- Cultivate Intimacy
Intimacy can start without sex. You need to start having a stronger relationship and having more comfort in sharing your emotions. Start small. Talk about things that worry you and things you are afraid of. As you do this, note what your partner tells you and show them that they can be comfortable with you.
You don’t have to make declarations at first with your partner but start with small things until you are comfortable and then open up more and more.
- Talk About What You Like
Allow yourself and your partner to talk about what you like when it comes to sex. People like to have sex, and everyone has different pleasures in bed. Allow yourself to really have a good time when you have sex with your partner and embrace the desires you each have.
- Find Out How to Foreplay
Being in a relationship for a long time can make it boring so you need to keep the excitement happening. Start having foreplay and showing affection before you start. Try kissing, whispering, getting naked and anything that makes a connection.
- Eye Contact
Keeping eye contact when you’re talking to someone can help make a connection. If you want to make an emotional connection when having sex, look your lover in the eyes. This helps to show affection and can make love making more passionate. If you have a hard time keeping eye, contact at least make sure that you are opening your eyes some.
- Don’t Be Afraid to Ask
Don’t be afraid to ask what you want when it comes to intimacy. You can build trust with the person that you love and open yourself up to them by being open to what you want. Most people are afraid of being judged but when you are open to pleasing each other then you need to have a place that is safe that you can talk about it and communicate.
- Show You’re Having Fun
When you are having sex and you are enjoying it, show your partner that you are. Sigh and moan and deep breathe so that they get the point that you are enjoying your time together.
- Take Time
It can be hard to make time to have intimacy, but this is one of the most important parts of being in a relationship. It doesn’t have to be a certain set time, but you need to make sure that you are taking time to make sure that your partner knows that you want to be intimate.
When you are out and about, drop hints to your partner that you want to be intimate and build up the excitement. Let your partner look forward to getting you home and making love to you. This will build the anticipation each time.